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Appreciate it fam.
I have been in a long relationship, 5 years. I know what it takes. I just feel like i can't find it...or can't get out of this mind set. I love being free i love being selfish. But i want kids. I just find myself in a strange place some times thinking through this stuff.
And i am 27 years old with a pretty good career. I am prepared to be a single dad. I know that now. I know i want to raise a child and help him/her see the world and grow up being loved and taken care of and allowed to succeed. I have the means of making all of that happen and i want it. We all come from some sort of broken cycle. And trust me the one i would create wouldn't be half as bad as some others out there with two parents.
Repped
"Any fool with a **** can make a baby, but only a real man can raise his children." - Furious Styles
I really respect your response and understand you completely now ignore the latter part of my previous reply because it obviously doesn't apply to you, I misinterpreted part of your original post, I apologise.
If more men thought and acted like you the world wouldn't be such a ugly place.
Separate living/split parenting..
It is something worth considering for the best of everybody when your in a negative destructive relationship, it gives the child a false negative viewpoint, perspective on what is a healthy functioning, acceptable/normal relationship and more than likely the child will will carry that through with them into their adult lives emulating that in their future relationships, let alone for your own sanitys sake.
I still believe this is not something that should be planned and executed I think you would be setting yourself up for heartache and failure..
You know how some women like using the children as weapons.
This is more of a way of dealing with a problem that you didn't forsee happening, rather than a plan of what to enter in to/sign up for given the risks associated.
I agree it can be very hard finding a life partner that is loyal and you can rely on and trust to go the distance together.
But that doesn't mean you should give up, there is goodness out there, like anything it's just far and few between.
It's crazy how in a world filled with 7 billion people, it's still so lonely.
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