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The only piece of advice you need: Be Bold! When you see a situation you know what the timid/respectful thing to do is, and what the BOLD thing to do is. At first it'll feel weird, but eventually your habit will be to be BOLD. Everyone feels awkward around each other, if you are BOLD and comfortable in your skin that is the biggest turn on to a girl (after you've met her).
Example: At the airport...girl in front of me says something in a language I know...I throw out a casual...oh you can speak Korean!? (I was in Thailand, flight back). We chat for a second, she goes her way I go my way. We get to Shangai airport and gotta wait for a transfer. I see her sitting with her sister, her mom, and her dad. Normal me would say eh there is no hope..i don't see an opening. BOLD me, said eh let's go for BOLD so I just sat down with her family and we chatted. Her rents were surprisingly mad cool, and her sister was happy for me to be chatting with them. She goes to a woman's university, is rich, and is super cute. We have plans for next week (i live in a diff city).
This is just one example, during the beginning. You have to make your intent clear with your words/actions. My biggest hangup for a long time was that every girl I met was going to be a movie level of choreographed beauty with words and situation. Once I gave up on that, and just started saying more BOLD things my success rate skyrocketed. If you are chilling with a girl at dinner, push for more after dinner. Don't just be happy with dinner. The first few times you'll be terrible cuz you are obviously not used to flirting with intent (and this is the ultimate prelude to being BOLD, cuz then it just seems natural). I'll say really dumb stuff just so they know my intent.
Example two: Had dinner with a girl, but it was awkward, I was awkward...we get to the movie and it's awkward. I decide I need to switch gears or just accept being a friend. So I said, "you know the distance from here to here (my left shoulder to my right shoulder) is the same as the distance from here to here (her left shoulder to her right shoulder)..so then you end up with your arm around her. She thought it was super corny and laughed and called me ******ed...but that is how you flirt and show intent. Even if it doesn't make sense...anything you can do to touch them is key. If they ask so what do you want to do now? Say...umm well there is a movie in my DVD player that isn't going to watch itself...come over and ill let you let me have my way with you. If you feel bad about it in the morning I got plenty of Advil.
It's not even these stupid lines..i just say em cuz it's entertaining to me...and when I'm having a good time they come naturally to me. If I'm just asking questions and being FBI interrogation I know that is when I'm doing terrible. Just practice saying BOLD thing..even just 1 or 2 a night to girls when you go out.
Example: At the airport...girl in front of me says something in a language I know...I throw out a casual...oh you can speak Korean!? (I was in Thailand, flight back). We chat for a second, she goes her way I go my way. We get to Shangai airport and gotta wait for a transfer. I see her sitting with her sister, her mom, and her dad. Normal me would say eh there is no hope..i don't see an opening. BOLD me, said eh let's go for BOLD so I just sat down with her family and we chatted. Her rents were surprisingly mad cool, and her sister was happy for me to be chatting with them. She goes to a woman's university, is rich, and is super cute. We have plans for next week (i live in a diff city).
This is just one example, during the beginning. You have to make your intent clear with your words/actions. My biggest hangup for a long time was that every girl I met was going to be a movie level of choreographed beauty with words and situation. Once I gave up on that, and just started saying more BOLD things my success rate skyrocketed. If you are chilling with a girl at dinner, push for more after dinner. Don't just be happy with dinner. The first few times you'll be terrible cuz you are obviously not used to flirting with intent (and this is the ultimate prelude to being BOLD, cuz then it just seems natural). I'll say really dumb stuff just so they know my intent.
Example two: Had dinner with a girl, but it was awkward, I was awkward...we get to the movie and it's awkward. I decide I need to switch gears or just accept being a friend. So I said, "you know the distance from here to here (my left shoulder to my right shoulder) is the same as the distance from here to here (her left shoulder to her right shoulder)..so then you end up with your arm around her. She thought it was super corny and laughed and called me ******ed...but that is how you flirt and show intent. Even if it doesn't make sense...anything you can do to touch them is key. If they ask so what do you want to do now? Say...umm well there is a movie in my DVD player that isn't going to watch itself...come over and ill let you let me have my way with you. If you feel bad about it in the morning I got plenty of Advil.
It's not even these stupid lines..i just say em cuz it's entertaining to me...and when I'm having a good time they come naturally to me. If I'm just asking questions and being FBI interrogation I know that is when I'm doing terrible. Just practice saying BOLD thing..even just 1 or 2 a night to girls when you go out.