Black Culture Discussion Thread

[tr1ll]

If you have/had a daughter that had a baby with a bum dude that walked out of their lives, no part of you is questioning the decision making of your daughter?

This a wildly hypothetical question with a boat load of variables.

Ok We'll just assume she just popped up pregnant one day. I didn't know she was having sex and I didn't know she was seeing anyone, all this happened without my knowledge. I already know, "I would raise her better than that" is going to be considered an unacceptable and I guess people who raised their children right just got lucky because 'control' is clearly a concept beyond some. Even if I THOUGHT I DID I raised her right, if she popped up like this, clearly I didn't. With that being said, first of all, that's a failure on my part as a father already. What do I look like question her where she ended up if I wasn't leading her in the right direction myself in the first place? Hell, I really don't even have the right to be upset. How am I going to get mad a motor for seizing if I never put oil in it?

To answer you question directly, NO. As a father/grandfather, what would that even accomplish? Sitting around crying of spilled milk and point fingers isn't going take care of that child. At the end of the day that is the only thing that really matters.

 

[maq25060]

Ja is an idiot. Point blank period.

That has NOTHING to do with what you are talking about.

Dude is cant get right. That or he's the annoying younger brother that just wont stop doing annoying **** in thr name of attention. Either way, I'm with you.

 

[DCAllAfrican]

This a wildly hypothetical question with a boat load of variables.

Ok We'll just assume she just popped up pregnant one day. I didn't know she was having sex and I didn't know she was seeing anyone, all this happened without my knowledge. I already know, "I would raise her better than that" is going to be considered an unacceptable and I guess people who raised their children right just got lucky because 'control' is clearly a concept beyond some. Even if I THOUGHT I DID I raised her right, if she popped up like this, clearly I didn't. With that being said, first of all, that's a failure on my part as a father already. What do I look like question her where she ended up if I wasn't leading her in the right direction myself in the first place? Hell, I really don't even have the right to be upset. How am I going to get mad a motor for seizing if I never put oil in it?

To answer you question directly, NO. As a father/grandfather, what would that even accomplish? Sitting around crying of spilled milk and point fingers isn't going take care of that child. At the end of the day that is the only thing that really matters.

I wasn't asking if you would ASK (verbally) about her decision making. I was more so asking if you would question (in thought) about her decision making.

I don't believe SPEAKING about it would help the situation at all either.

 

[tr1ll]

I wasn't asking if you would ASK (verbally) about her decision making. I was more so asking if you would question (in thought) about her decision making.

I don't believe SPEAKING about it would help the situation at all either.

To answer you question directly, NO.

 

[DCAllAfrican]

I'm not sure how THINKING your daughter chose wrong has to mean you are spending time, "Sitting around crying of spilled milk and point fingers" but I know people have to use extreme examples to defend their points.

I think you aren't being serious but stand your ground.

 

[DCAllAfrican]

It's not your fault Gil, it takes two to tango.

 

[x Buddha Bless x]

It's not your fault Gil, it takes two to tango.

This has nothing to do with either of them and more about a corrupt legal system.

Keep in mind though, Gil knocked her up 4 times in a row.

A lot of yall lack discernment, have poor judgment, and even worse decision making skills. With those qualities of course you’ll procreate with jezebels and harlots.

 

[finessence]

It's not your fault Gil, it takes two to tango.

Well deserved. Gil is an overcompensating bozo. I can tell he never got girls growing up.

I have no sympathy for dudes like him

 

[Rootin4EverybodyBlack]

I wish we’d stop giving platforms to dudes like Gil. His whole persona is clickbait, dude has been a clown since he was on the wizards

 

[finessence]

I wish we’d stop giving platforms to dudes like Gil. His whole persona is clickbait, dude has been a clown since he was on the wizards

GREAT hooper though! Shout out him, Loren Wood, Jason Gardner, Hassan Adams, RJ, and LUTE Olson!! I am/was a HUGE AZ wildcats fan!

Bibby, Simon, Iggy, salim stoudemire and mustafa Shakur, etc!!

So, I will always be a fan of Gil the hooper.

Buddy just has to interject and put himself in everything (unrelated to that interview)

 

[tr1ll]

I'm not sure how THINKING your daughter chose wrong has to mean you are spending time, "Sitting around crying of spilled milk and point fingers" but I know people have to use extreme examples to defend their points.

I think you aren't being serious but stand your ground.

Plain and simple, DC. I don't think like that.

 

[DCAllAfrican]

Plain and simple, DC. I don't think like that.

It's nothing to, "Think like......"

It's simple cause and effect.

If you have a working human brain, you view things through a cause and effect lense.

So if your daughter has a dude that is a deadbeat, your brain will NATURALLY (regardless of what you want to admit) think of the CAUSE of that situation; which would be she chose the wrong dude.

But like I said, you have to stand your ground on your stance so I get it but it isn't realistic.

 

[tr1ll]

It's nothing to, "Think like......"

It's simple cause and effect.

If you have a working human brain, you view things through a cause and effect lense.

So if your daughter has a dude that is a deadbeat, your brain will NATURALLY (regardless of what you want to admit) think of the CAUSE of that situation; which would be she chose the wrong dude.

But like I said, you have to stand your ground on your stance so I get it but it isn't realistic.

One thing my parents used to say to me a lot, "Everyone doesn't think like you.."

District of Columbia, everyone doesn't think like you. Sometimes, bro your narcissism spills out. Just because YOU can't phantom it, doesn't mean its not realistic. Its just different.

 

[DCAllAfrican]

One thing my parents used to say to me a lot, "Everyone doesn't think like you.."

District of Columbia, everyone doesn't think like you. Sometimes, bro your narcissism spills out. Just because YOU can't phantom it, doesn't mean its not realistic. Its just different.

You are completely missing the point of what an INVOLUNTARY thought is.

Unless your brain doesn't work, you see things through cause and effect.

But we can agree to disagree.

No disrespect.

 

[tr1ll]

You are completely missing the point of what an INVOLUNTARY thought is.

Unless your brain doesn't work, you see things through cause and effect.

But we can agree to disagree.

No disrespect.

You're 100% right. The difference is we see two different causes. I see him getting her pregnant, you see her LETTING him get her pregnant.

 

[maq25060]

***** YO BRAIN BROKE AS ****!!

No disrespect, of course

 

[DCAllAfrican]

You're 100% right. The difference is we see two different causes. I see him getting her pregnant, you see her LETTING him get her pregnant.

Unless an instance of SA took place, she did LET him though.

It STARTS with her allowing him inside, the NEXT step is him doing HIS part.

Unless you believe she wouldn't have the cognitive ability to make that choice on her own? (which would then pose a different set of questions since I'm sure you believe you are being PRO-woman in this convo.)

 

[tr1ll]

But you can't let me do something I didn't try to do.

 

[DCAllAfrican]

But you can't let me do something I didn't try to do.

When you control access to something, it starts with you. It doesn't start with someone else having the desire.

If I go to Krispy Kreme and get food poisoning from one of their products, how would it be on me (the consumer) and not the company that owns the product?

Nice attempt though but this just further proves that you don't believe what you are even saying.

 

[tr1ll]

When you control access to something, it starts with you. It doesn't start with someone else having the desire.

If I go to Krispy Kreme and get food poisoning from one of their products, how would it be on me (the consumer) and not the company that owns the product?

Nice attempt though but this just further proves that you don't believe what you are even saying.

First of all, how dare you blaspheme Krispy Kreme? Second of all strawman.

Back to the actual subject at hand, how about this? We've heard this phrase and probably even lived. "I was gonna let him smash, but he didn't even try. " Access was given but because the action wasn't made to accept access. You can TRY to LET someone take action, but it's still there decision to take said action.

 

[Present]

Can't knock it though. Ya man's is standing on simpin. I respect it.

 

[tr1ll]

Naw this goes back to the original thought I alluded to about Deuce's post; I believe the whole "shoulda picked a better man" comes form a place of distain for women and you only going to have distain for women if you have trouble with women. Yall boys proved it in spades.

 

[Present]

 

[calypso chanta]

yknow i... i'm unclear on what the discussion is. Is this just an accountability question?

 

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