people do be gettin pissed, i been there myself because im like this too...
For me its even come to the point where i question my own actions....like am i doing this friends #+!+ wrong?? why people getting annoyed?? I am quite a selfish bastard so i thought maybe i should be giving people more of my time even if i dont really want to image I have since made a concious effort to get at people more often and my people appreciate it.
Yup.
I mean, I'm never gonna stop being ME but everything is a learning experience. While I do expect people to understand my personality like I try tounderstand theirs, I feel like as a friend...I can pull my head out of my *%$ long enough to entertain them if they happen to request my presence during one ofmy loner sprees.There have been so many times my friends wanted to do things with me but I wanted to stay home just because. I haven't been doingthat lately.
Ever since I graduated in June, I've felt oddly refreshed. I've been running the streets w/ folks just living it up and I don't mind a bit. I getplenty of time to unwind and be in my lonesome at home. I mean, @%$%... my post counts on yuku are a direct testament to my loner periods. lol I'm not inschool anymore so I don't really have a reason to sit up on the computer all day screwing around. I still have my spells (like this Lazy Sunday night) butI have learned that just because I'm a bratty introvert that needs 'her' me time...I should be more accommodating to my true buddies.
Now, it'd be different if I lived w/ my friends and was forced to be all up around those heffas 24/7!But they 'get' me and we're a lotalike so that'd never even be a problem.
Oh, I feel you on your whole post. I was around 23 or 24 for me where my friends started wondering why I like to do stuff by myself. I told them "Don't you feel good? Knowing that you can go out into random areas and feel comfortable in your own skin?" It was hectic for me too, because myboys are people I'm know from high school , and we went through a lot. I was always an extrovert, but when I decided to be an observer in life and learnthrough a different way, my friends thought I was weird.Originally Posted by Dylishis
See, that's the most important thing is having people that respect you for you, that KNOW you and accept you. That's a big problem I had in college because I went down there by myself. I made a few (3) good friends that I'm still friends with today but along the way, I picked up a lot of "friends"/shallow acquaintances. Superficial friendships + my personality + their personalities= not much with the fun.
%%@+ got kinda hectic after I moved in with a few friends from the dorms into an apartment. Everything was all good for the first couple months. We always hung out! Went to the mall, the movies, dinner, out to the clubs and bars... I wasn't really in my introverted mode at at first but one day I guess I picked the wrong time to not want to be social.%%@+ kinda went downhill from there and it was clear that they were offended by my need to be alone and they thought it had something to do with them. We talked it out and I thought we had an understanding but nothing ever changed. It was really...something. lol
That's why I hold on to my few little friends. Most of my friends are friends from jr. high in addition to my college buddies. It's hard being grown trying to meet and get used to new people, esp. when you don't want to be bothered.
Originally Posted by CIDMAN911
You won't find a sadder story....
I used to get hit alot for talking too much when I was little. IDK why. I just was.
Around 3rd grade my pops hit me so hard cause the teacher called him and told him I was talking too much in class.
He used to drink alot.
He beat the crap out of me so bad that I became unconscious when he started hitting me on the head with the belt buckle.
After that I never really talked or cared to talk to anyone at home. I barely talked to kids at school.
Was like my own little vow of silence.
I worked it off over the years but it did scar me....bad.
And it didn't help that we lived in bad neighborhoods, had no real family around and that I was an only child.
That was just one little chapter of the crap I went through as a kid. I still have bad dreams and cry about my crappy childhood sometimes.
And people like my girl really just don't get it when I tell em "You'll never understand what a tortured childhood I had"
You're not socializing.
It's like when you go on a diet the wrong way, forcing no room for a cheat, and when you finally get that cheat you binge and now you'recompletely off that diet. You need balance.
QFT x2. the one caveat i have with your post is when you said "the key is to surround yourself with the right people." to me, there areno 'wrong' people. if you tell yourself "oh, that guy/girl probably won't like me" you are subconsciously telling yourself that you areinferior to them. you just have to adopt the mentality that nobody in this world is better than you, and that you can make yourself comfortable in any environment with anybody.. which will then allow you to show your true personality no matter where you are.
True story.
QFT
Making up stuff to make yourself feel better
Biggest co-sign on this. I like to socialize, people like me, but sometimes I like to sit and listen to my music while playing 2K9.Originally Posted by Dr Spaceman
Originally Posted by Dylishis
I think only other introverts can understand introversion. The one thing that I can think of to show 'unnappreciation' of the whole matter is the fact that some extroverts take personal offense to introversion.
Being in college (especially living in the dorms when everyone I hung around was ALWAYS ALWAYS doing stuff--- rooms stayed packed w/ people) really brought that to the forefront. I have 2 older siblings (10 and 15 years older) and they're male.I pretty much grew up alone. Never had to share anything with anyone. I'm used to being able to dip off and be by myself ...listen to music...play a video/computer game...unwind on my own time. Then I got to college and realized that sometimes people don't understand that. Not only do they not understand, they take it personally. THAT'S something that sucks. Having your introversion on public display.
Some folks don't get that you want to be alone sometimes. Not all the time... but %$+%, let a %%+@! breathe!
I feel you, it's kinda why i got jokes, gets folk to leave you alone sometimes. I hate when people wanna "understand" why you want to be alone. It just is what it is, i'm not shy, not anti social, (and not arrogant either)there are just times where i don't want to be bothered. You still got to get out there though, sometimes you retreat into your safe zone you forget to do simple ++#* to appease the extroverts like calling your moms.
