Originally Posted by
Hazeleyed Honey
Originally Posted by LDJ
See then how can you say you truly loved them then? Im sorry but true feelings just dont switch on and off like light switches. Sounds like alot of ppl are in lust/in love with being in love. Or are just in a situation they enjoy but arent truly in love with the person just really like them alot.
Its hard to fathom one single incident can change your entire feelings/outlook on a person situation. I can understand not being in love with the person anymore, having trust issues with the person, having a hard time of forgiving and forgeting. But to say your my everything/love of my life to oh i hate you clearly shows that there wasnt ppl who are in love.
Like if my woman cheated/deceived me yes i would be upset, it would be hard for me to forgive/forget if ever, but i love her and will always have love for her i probably just wouldnt be with her anymore or be IN LOVE with her anymore. She couldnt come home say i banged a random guy then i go from i love you to i wish death on you in the blink of an eye.
This type of behavior borders sociopath tendencies/bipolar/schizophrenic. And if you change feelings emotions all willie nillie, maybe you shouldnt even be in a relationship. Its thinking like this that makes up them loony bin women on shows like snapped, or crazed b/f who kills wife and kids and offs himself.
If someone loves you, they wouldn't betray you. Period. Why would I ever put with ANYONE that disrespects me? I am sorry, I know my self worth and deserve better than to be treated like #@#*. How can you even be in those kind of relationships if there is no trust anymore? They destroyed that foundation.
As for you not loving them anymore, well yea, it doesn't disappear in that second you find out they cheated. But, I know that I have to let that person go because I am not putting up with a man that disrespects me. The love then fades slowly but gradually. Once you become disattached and indifferent to them, then you know you have moved on.
I value fidelity and to be respected in a committed relationship and that is why I have zero tolerance for cheating.
When they cheat, they can ruin and hurt you to the core, not just physically or emotionally, they can also gamble with your life. So despite how you love them, you start to grow resentment and bitterness towards them and the love does fade away.