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Men are not built to be monogamous, just look in nature. There's a reason why a female stops producing eggs, but a male can keep producing sperm until he dies.
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Originally Posted by chokeonsmoke
Some men take pride in the fact that they resist and control that urge ,it leads to new levels of strength and nirvanaits hard to find couples that are on that level
Originally Posted by ksteezy
there is such a thing as self control and that should be what sets us apart from a four legged animal.
Originally Posted by ksteezy
Sex is a natural instinct, no different than hunger or sleep.....how faifthful you are to one individual is all a matter of morals and cultural beliefs, I don't believe in being married and for it to be acceptable to sleep around in order to satisfy the hunger for sex with different people, that's not to say that as a human I'm not tempted, but hey I chose to be committed to one woman and I plan on keeping it like that, so when the urge strikes is always good to fap it out and then the urge is gone and I'm back to my normal self....there is such a thing as self control and that should be what sets us apart from a four legged animal.
But see, that's the thing, are you fapping to the woman that your committed to all the time or to someone else? IMO flapping to someone else while in a relationship with someone else is cheating. I know for me, if I have a girlfriend and she's masturbating to another male, would that be cheating to you? I know that would be cheating to me...Originally Posted by ksteezy
Sex is a natural instinct, no different than hunger or sleep.....how faifthful you are to one individual is all a matter of morals and cultural beliefs, I don't believe in being married and for it to be acceptable to sleep around in order to satisfy the hunger for sex with different people, that's not to say that as a human I'm not tempted, but hey I chose to be committed to one woman and I plan on keeping it like that, so when the urge strikes is always good to fap it out and then the urge is gone and I'm back to my normal self....there is such a thing as self control and that should be what sets us apart from a four legged animal.
Originally Posted by ksteezy
Sex is a natural instinct, no different than hunger or sleep.....how faifthful you are to one individual is all a matter of morals and cultural beliefs, I don't believe in being married and for it to be acceptable to sleep around in order to satisfy the hunger for sex with different people, that's not to say that as a human I'm not tempted, but hey I chose to be committed to one woman and I plan on keeping it like that, so when the urge strikes is always good to fap it out and then the urge is gone and I'm back to my normal self....there is such a thing as self control and that should be what sets us apart from a four legged animal.
Originally Posted by 651akathePaul
Higher state of evolution.
Originally Posted by shoeking2101
But see, that's the thing, are you fapping to the woman that your committed to all the time or to someone else? IMO flapping to someone else while in a relationship with someone else is cheating. I know for me, if I have a girlfriend and she's masturbating to another male, would that be cheating to you? I know that would be cheating to me...Originally Posted by ksteezy
Sex is a natural instinct, no different than hunger or sleep.....how faifthful you are to one individual is all a matter of morals and cultural beliefs, I don't believe in being married and for it to be acceptable to sleep around in order to satisfy the hunger for sex with different people, that's not to say that as a human I'm not tempted, but hey I chose to be committed to one woman and I plan on keeping it like that, so when the urge strikes is always good to fap it out and then the urge is gone and I'm back to my normal self....there is such a thing as self control and that should be what sets us apart from a four legged animal.
Originally Posted by SuprDuperFly
But it is indeed selfish for men to want sex with others but not to want their partners to do the same. This however is not just a "man" thing. Women also cheat; they also lie about it; and they also want to be able to cheat without their partners doing the same. Monogamy is a problem for all sexes; it builds in an ownership script regardless of gender.
^ That's where I come full circle after reading this an comparing it to my relationship, don't want anyone smashing your girl? Keep it in your pants.Asking for the open ended relationship will prompt you girl to ask if she can have the same benefits, cue Wayne "no" .gif. So I rather it just be me and her.
ksteezy wrote:
Lol....you kidding me?...we have all fapped to porn, how is that cheating??...we all have morally wrong thoughts, thinking of how badly you'd want to put 5 bullets into someone does not make you a psychotic murdered....i don't know about y'all but fapping to me is God's funny way of giving us a relief valve.
Agreed. I apply the same policy to my bf being at strip clubs. Don't matter where you get your appetite, so long as you eat at home
Originally Posted by shoeking2101
But see, that's the thing, are you fapping to the woman that your committed to all the time or to someone else? IMO flapping to someone else while in a relationship with someone else is cheating. I know for me, if I have a girlfriend and she's masturbating to another male, would that be cheating to you? I know that would be cheating to me...Originally Posted by ksteezy
Sex is a natural instinct, no different than hunger or sleep.....how faifthful you are to one individual is all a matter of morals and cultural beliefs, I don't believe in being married and for it to be acceptable to sleep around in order to satisfy the hunger for sex with different people, that's not to say that as a human I'm not tempted, but hey I chose to be committed to one woman and I plan on keeping it like that, so when the urge strikes is always good to fap it out and then the urge is gone and I'm back to my normal self....there is such a thing as self control and that should be what sets us apart from a four legged animal.
Originally Posted by SpeakUp23
Another thing............. I find nothing wrong with people (men) subscribing to the "men aren't meant to be monogamous" idea. Ok fair enough. What I don't understand and can't condone are dudes who GET INTO A MONOGAMOUS RELATIONSHIP, cheat and then use the "men aren't supposed to be in a monogamous relationship".
If you are about that "men aren't supposed to be in a monogamous relationship" life, then why get into one in the first place?
Originally Posted by shoeking2101
Had a talk with a friend of mine the other day concerning this
Could it be that the only reason why a man is supposed to be with just one woman something that society has placed as standard? I mean, who says exactly men are supposed to be with just one woman? Men cheat, and if Men don't cheat they are thinking of doing it, which imo is just like cheating, only worse. I've always said that if a man is in a relationship with a woman and has sex with another girl outside the relationship, that's not necessarily cheating. Now, if he goes and gets an entirely different girlfriend while in a relationship with someone else, then that to me is considered cheating. With most men, physical attraction is ever changing, and ever present. As the article stated, due to pornography, and other societal happenings in western culture, it's almost incriminating to ask a man to commit physically to just one woman.
Now, is the reverse true? Do we say that asking woman to be physically committed to a man is unfair as well? I for one believe that women are FAR more able to and even MUCH MORE LIKELY to commit physically to one man. In fact, its probable that they would even stick with just one mate physically even if given the opportunity to step out with another male. It should be noted that since the turn of the century though, women's philosophy on sex is changing fast and in a few years, women may be just as causal with sex as men.
It also should be noted that if you go "I Do" and marry someone, then to me, under no circumstance is it okay to cheat on your counterpart in any way, shape, or form.
basically.Originally Posted by ksteezy
Originally Posted by SpeakUp23
Another thing............. I find nothing wrong with people (men) subscribing to the "men aren't meant to be monogamous" idea. Ok fair enough. What I don't understand and can't condone are dudes who GET INTO A MONOGAMOUS RELATIONSHIP, cheat and then use the "men aren't supposed to be in a monogamous relationship".
If you are about that "men aren't supposed to be in a monogamous relationship" life, then why get into one in the first place?
Nothing more than a last resort cop out in order to not man up to the harm you've just caused.