Why do women with kids get so angry when a man “reject's” them relationship wise for having kids?

[tupac jordan]

No single mothers for me, can’t be too close to her nieces and nephews either.

 

[Fozz]

Ahhh! You just described my sister. She’s been whoring around with a drug dealer who has 5 baby mamas in different states. Uses her apartment to package drugs, and even takes her on trips out of state likely to transport. She buys him expensive clothes & shoes too. She pushes her kids to the side and spends days at a time without coming home.....the guy isn’t even her boyfriend and yet she prioritize him over her kids. Now she wonders why they don’t like her, don’t respect her and don’t want to be near her when that guy leaves to the other states to check on his other baby mamas for the next few months. Talkin’ about “my kids don’t like me because of what you tell them about me”......they’re 15 and 17 and it’s what they see. How embarrassing

This sounds just like my cousin, minus the cartel-like activities lol.

I had to help raise her son as if he was my own. She's improved, but has a long ways to go.

 

[TURBO UNO]

This sounds just like my cousin, minus the cartel-like activities lol.

I had to help raise her son as if he was my own. She's improved, but has a long ways to go.

Same bro, helped raise both my nephews and one who happens to be autistic. You and I have done a lot and I’m quite sure they love us like a parent. I’ll take that as a reward any day.

I also hope your cousin continues to do better. Seems like she’s at least working towards it and that’s the biggest step.

 

[tr1ll]

women will put you b4 their kids. If she dosent then she don't really f with u like that

He's not lying. Its also know, in some circles, as "red flag behavior"....I believe is the correct term.

 

[tr1ll]

Some of y'all in here naive if you think your children will take care of you like you think as you get older.

Me and the other 35 of my cousins call BS. This a Y'ALL problem b.

 

[sonoftony]

There's plenty of women out there with no kids. Why put yourself in this situation knowing that's an issue with you?

 

[nonnative]

Rejects woman for having kids.

Woman rejects him for not wanting relationship because of kids.

"Why do women get so angry?"

 

[tr1ll]

No single mothers for me, can’t be too close to her nieces and nephews either.

There's plenty of women out there with no kids. Why put yourself in this situation knowing that's an issue with you?

How old are yall? That "plenty" turns to "some" after 30. After 35 its, "Really?!?"

 

[fdub]

Hey, I would rather create my own family than be brought in to an already made one.

 

[WASHED KING]

Just had to deal with this a few months ago.

Women #1...lets call her B for the sake of this story. She's a nurse, 27, was 26 when we met but her birthday was last month. Blonde thick, she's a freak down for anything. Literally drug me to a sex store on our 3rd link to find stuff I can tie her up with she wild.

BUT she has a kid that's like 2...baby daddy drama.....has a drug addict homeless mother. Just too much baggage for me to overlook. She would be blowing my phone up 24/7, always wanting me to see her this was around June. I was out out for the summer (I teach) and my only responsibilities fr were basketball workouts in the mornings but I just couldn't take her seriously.

Like if she just wanted to fool around we would've been good but she wanted a full blown relationship and I wasn't gunna give her that.

Later on in June I meet my current situation. We will call her M....23 year old med assistant lives right next door in the building downtown next to mine. Brown skin, slim thick, no kids. Didn't have nearly the hangups with her as B. Mainly because there was little to no baggage. Why would I deal with a single mother with that many issues when I can get younger single women w/o half the problems?

 

[WASHED KING]

How old are yall? That "plenty" turns to "some" after 30. After 35 its, "Really?!?"

28.

I've knocked down a few mothers. Would never date one seriously.

 

[sonoftony]

How old are yall? That "plenty" turns to "some" after 30. After 35 its, "Really?!?"

I'm 40.

Married now but I've dated single moms in the past. I stopped dating them because I didn't want to be #2 after their kid. You're right tho, the dating pool gets smaller over time but that's what's the apps are for

 

[DCAllAfrican]

In terms of the, "Kids that take care of their older parents" topic, from what I've noticed female children are WAY less likely to throw their parents into a home and are probably the ones that do the actual caregiving.

Not saying ALL female children take care of their older parents.
Not saying ALL female children take care of their older parents.
Not saying ALL female children take care of their older parents.
Not saying ALL female children take care of their older parents.
Not saying ALL female children take care of their older parents.

 

[WASHED KING]

I'm 40.

Married now but I've dated single moms in the past. I stopped dating them because I didn't want to be #2 after their kid. You're right tho, the dating pool gets smaller over time but that's what's the apps are for

Just keep your age range on the apps set from 21-29 and the odds of single mothers is less.

At least that's what I do.

 

[tr1ll]

Just keep your age range on the apps set from 21-29 and the odds of single mothers is less.

At least that's what I do.

You JUST said you're 28.

 

[WASHED KING]

You JUST said you're 28.

Ok????

You can filter out who you want to see on every app.

 

[finessence]

Some of y'all in here naive if you think your children will take care of you like you think as you get older. They gonna throw your rear end in a nursing and take out a reverse mortgage on your house and sign the docs as your POA and come see you once or twice a month if that. I worked in the reverse mortgage industry for 7 seven years. You won't believe some of the stories I have heard.

Your children may love you but don't think they about to put they life on hold for you.

I got a cousin who's mom passed a few years ago. His mom is my older cousin. To this day she doesn't have a headstone at her burial sight. We, as a family can't even get her a headstone without his consent because he next of kin.

It's heartbreaking. His momma would watch his kids and even put his son cellphone line on her plan. Guess how my cousin repaid his deceased mom? By driving all the gas out of her truck a day after she passed away. He also tried to break into her condo to steal some of her jewelry. He wasn't a crackhead. Just ungrateful and money hungry.

You just never know how people gonna act when they get a few dollars for life insurance.

$2500 almost broke up our entire family when my grandmother passed away. She left one of her kids that amount and some of the others got nothing.

As long as there aren't any allegations for elder abuse your kids can pretty do what they want with as long as they legal standing to do so.

Also, for some of y'all that got kids that don't like each. Have fun with your kids being in court contesting if the POA or Personal Rep docs are valid because they aren't on speaking terms.

I could go on but you get my point.

So, if the kids AND ex-spouse don’t take care of them… who is then?

If the parent is in their 70s, 80s, etc and let’s say the spouse is also in that age range, they’re both going to be geriatric.

Like I said, I hit the mother lottery, I can’t speak for anyone ELSE but I hit the jackpot in terms of my mother. My mom never put a man before me. Til this day, I’ve spent more money on my mom, than any woman. And it’ll always be that way.

It’s case by case but if you were a decent parent, your kids got you in the end.

 

[finessence]

Me and the other 35 of my cousins call BS. This a Y'ALL problem b.

Exactly. Sounds like his family is f*** up or the people he’s dealt with in business are slimeballs and disgusting people.

Like Deion Sanders, my mom going wherever I go. Miss Connie always alongside Deion

Some children are just terrible and ungrateful

 

[finessence]

Just had to deal with this a few months ago.

Women #1...lets call her B for the sake of this story. She's a nurse, 27, was 26 when we met but her birthday was last month. Blonde thick, she's a freak down for anything. Literally drug me to a sex store on our 3rd link to find stuff I can tie her up with she wild.

BUT she has a kid that's like 2...baby daddy drama.....has a drug addict homeless mother. Just too much baggage for me to overlook. She would be blowing my phone up 24/7, always wanting me to see her this was around June. I was out out for the summer (I teach) and my only responsibilities fr were basketball workouts in the mornings but I just couldn't take her seriously.

Like if she just wanted to fool around we would've been good but she wanted a full blown relationship and I wasn't gunna give her that.

Later on in June I meet my current situation. We will call her M....23 year old med assistant lives right next door in the building downtown next to mine. Brown skin, slim thick, no kids. Didn't have nearly the hangups with her as B. Mainly because there was little to no baggage. Why would I deal with a single mother with that many issues when I can get younger single women w/o half the problems?

You were supposed to let the single mother know off the rip that you just wanted her for sex. You’d be surprised how many woman will acquiesce to that. If you’re a single man, bread, own car, job, etc. man you can come and go and live how you want out here. There are so many miserable, lonely women and on the flip side, so many dudes who don’t even like, or are afraid to approach women, you can knock these chics down left and right.

 

[WASHED KING]

You were supposed to let the single mother know off the rip that you just wanted her for sex. You’d be surprised how many woman will acquiesce to that. If you’re a single man, bread, own car, job, etc. man you can come and go and live how you want out here. There are so many miserable, lonely women and on the flip side, so many dudes who don’t even like, or are afraid to approach women, you can knock this chics down left and right.

I did. But you know who it goes. They're with it until they're not.

 

[finessence]

How old are yall? That "plenty" turns to "some" after 30. After 35 its, "Really?!?"

You do know birth rates are low righ? The USA will be like Japan in a few decades. Plus, a lot of young men aren’t even having sex

I personally know 5 women, who are college educated/have careers, 3 are past 35, two early 30s and they all have no kids.

Lots of women in that age range without kids. My cousin just graduated from FAMU pharmacy school, she’s 25, own place, makes 100k and lives in Boca Raton. No kids. Another cousin of mines is in nursing school, 27 years old and has no kids.

They’re out here

 

[finessence]

Last point, if she’s a single mother with BREAD and a great career, you always keep her on the team. Even as a friend.

Any dude dealing with a broke, busted and disgusted single mother, then he done lost his ever loving mind

Type chic be at the bus stop pregnant, pushing a stroller and her baby daddy next to her smoking a black and mild.

Don’t be like my pops. He saw my stepmom at a BUS STOP with a new born baby. Been married to this women for 25 years out here looking crazy and regrets it everyday

Went out like a straight up sucker

 

[tr1ll]

Ok????

You can filter out who you want to see on every app.

You said that like it was some "advice" or something. Im talking about after 30.

 

[eracism]

my views on this have changed as I've gotten older. there are some positives with dating women with kids. their kids are their main priority, you are secondary, so you'll still have your own independence. there is more value in the time you spend with them.

you get a preview of who they are as a mother. if they have a good job and responsibilities in order, that's a huge box to check off if you are interested in a long-term relationship. if you start a family with a woman, kids can change the dynamic of a relationship. and motherhood can have psychological effects on a woman so the person you initially fell in love with could be gone for an indefinite amout of time. but you can tick all that off when you meet a single mom who is killing it.

 

[cedric ceballos]

It takes a huge level of selflessness to date a chick with kids. In all seriousness though. Props to the dudes who do it with good intentions and are a positive influence in the kids life. Especially if the biological pops isn’t around.

I’m damn near 40 and got two bm’s and aside from casual smashing, women with kids that aren’t my kids were never my thing because I like all the attention focused on me and I’m not trying to come second to her kids, and the women who did put me over their kids. I didn’t want any part of that because that’s bad priorities.

Plus I’m traumatized from my experience with my first bm. I was smashing her whenever I wanted while she’s been with her current dude. And by all accounts he’s a standup dude and good stepfather. But that’s often the case. A lot of my friends who have kids were still tapping the bm every so often even if she had a new dude.

I’ve softened my stance as I’ve gotten older though. I’m not getting any younger and most women I talk to around my age are likely going to have kids.