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That's a bad spot to be in though, to be the only one. Then they look at you sideways like you're wrong. I think this situation might be just an age thing. Generally younger people don't see it as an issue. I know I didn't when I was younger, but that's besides the point. You should do it regardless of age. I guess when you get older and have your own place, you see it differently. Idk.
think you hit the nail on the head. now that i think about it, i didnt really think about it as much when i was younger. to be honest, when i was younger (college or HS) we really didnt have hosted get togethers like that because no one had their own place. if we werent still living at home, we were doin the apt+roommate thing, so it would be hard to coordinate a big get together like that. Furthermore, ALL of us were struggling financially as starving students, so no one would have the disposable income available to just kickdown a couple hundred bucks to put something like that together. Any time there was a get together, it was assumed that everyone chips what they can and we make it work.
age and stable income often bring more social responsibilities, its just the way it is (atleast for me). that being said, even at my age (early 30's) i got some close friends who are still strugglin financially. with most of those guys, the cheap factor is a non-issue. They arent being cheap, they are just broke. Situation like that, 10 out of 10 times, I got you. I'm asking you to come kick it knowing full well what your financial situation is. I'm not trying to make it a financial burden for you just to hang out. I ask you to go out to the bar with me for some drinks, 9 out of 10 times I will try to pick up the bill or pay a bigger portion of it, maybe a proportion commensurate to our respective income/salaries. Its all done with the understanding that once they get on their feet (if ever) they will return the favor. If they never get on their feet, i dont even see it as a loss. im still living good, and if i can help make my boys life a little bit less crappy, then that is surely worth a few bucks outta my pocket. the problem is the straight out cheap fools. my cheap friend (to be honest, hes not even that cheap, just very very selfish and lazy) is not hurtin for money. dude's got multiple houses, multiple cars including his daily driver 5 series bimmer, and probably brings home upward of $200K a year. stop bein a lil B, stop by the store and pickup a bottle of scotch on your way over you bum.