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Eczema flared up last night. I feel miserable right now.
the thread about nothing...
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Not to sound like an ***, but unless your dad is fronting the entire wedding bill, you don't need to do anything. A wedding is for you and your life partner and no one else. And 10-20k for a wedding? More like 30k - 40k papi.
I grew up in a traditional Asian household where things were never spoken, but everyone "expected" you to know stuff. Like you "supposed" to take of your parents because you owe them for what they did for you. And while I am forever grateful, for people to expect you to do things you are uncomfortable with and without really asking, really peeves me.
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Truth.
Dad-in-law wanted to control our wedding plans and our guest list and I was adamant that would not happen. He tried to intimidate me by yelling and slamming his hand on the table, but that didn't work at all, and he was shook that I didn't budge.
In the end, we found a common ground, and we had our wedding the way we wanted.
- Aug 14, 2012
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Woke up at 2am and wasn’t able to go back to sleep 
i also found out about this new term called Imposter Syndrome. I totally feel like I have that occasionally.
i need the weekend to be here so I can rest properly
i also found out about this new term called Imposter Syndrome. I totally feel like I have that occasionally.
i need the weekend to be here so I can rest properly
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I think I’m dying.
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What you mean? You good fam?
technically we are all dying...just a matter of when.
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Haha yea thanks. I’m just being dramatic cuz I got more sick over night. Didn’t go in to work.
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Appreciate it fambs. I can see both sides which is tough for me. Like i get it there aren't many times that everyone in the family will be able to get together and this could be one. At the end of the day we will probably end up just going to a courthouse to get the wedding done. But still appease people by having a reception after the fact.
But kind of rubbed me the wrong way when he was like "the wedding is about family not you". I was like uhhhh...i get it...but like...no...but like i get it...kinda...but still no
But kind of rubbed me the wrong way when he was like "the wedding is about family not you". I was like uhhhh...i get it...but like...no...but like i get it...kinda...but still no
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agreed with you fully. I get it, but nah.
and just keep it at that. no more no less. you understand the opposing view point, so much so that you are considering a reception after your own private "ceremony" but your decision will be final, regardless of how others feel. and keep it pushing. anyone that's got a problem will have to deal with it on their own as well.
don't let it be more than it needs to I guess is what I'm saying. and this doesn't need much energy at all.
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I told my family I wasn’t dropping a dime for a wedding.
We got married at the courthouse. My in laws were so happy they paid for a dinner we had afterwards for like 50 people.
I took the money I would have used for a wedding and put down 20% on a new home a couple months later.
We got married at the courthouse. My in laws were so happy they paid for a dinner we had afterwards for like 50 people.
I took the money I would have used for a wedding and put down 20% on a new home a couple months later.
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That 20% down payment towards an appreciating investment such as your new home is a MILLION times better idea than throwing away said 20% on a 1 night wedding event. Props to you sir, you did the smart thing. Why people willingly choose to rack up debt of 20k,30k or 50k for a wedding is beyond me. Have a nice little dinner with your closest family & friends and call it a day
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Too much MSG?
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this is a very smart move lol.
i wanna do the same thing when i get married but i feel like my parents aren't going to approve of that. my girl recently told me she wanted a small civil wedding with a guest liat of not more than 20 people. but knowing my family they'd rather choose the traditional catholic wedding
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Not enough!
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Finally feels like Fall around here.
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Aren't you in the Philippines? Stop lying to yourself. You're about to have the entire town invited to that wedding lol.this is a very smart move lol.
i wanna do the same thing when i get married but i feel like my parents aren't going to approve of that. my girl recently told me she wanted a small civil wedding with a guest liat of not more than 20 people. but knowing my family they'd rather choose the traditional catholic wedding
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Rain in SoCal. I love it.
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Exactly what me and my wife did. Courthouse wedding, dinner with immediate family afterwards. 4 months later, bought a house.
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