The Friendzone vol r/niceguy

[shoeking2102]

Why do so many NTers think mind games will always work with women? If there's some attraction on both sides you won't have to jump through all these hoops to get her to like you. Especially not by making her see you as MORE of a friend and investing her time in that FRIENDSHIP. At the end of the day you can't outrun comparability.

And it is 100% possible for guys and girls to be close friends. Guys can be friends with girls under the same circumstances that they are friends with other guys. Yall just gotta stop expecting that every girl wants to sleep with you [emoji]128514[/emoji][emoji]128514[/emoji][emoji]128514[/emoji]

"Yall just gotta stop expecting that every girl wants to sleep with you" this evokes a notion that only guys want to take that step with their girl - friends which isn't true and kind of alludes to you missing my point. Girls end up falling for their guy bestfriends all the time. Your entire post centers around the sentiment that Guys always want to take that step with their female friends and that it isn't the other way around when it could very well be. 

Guys and girls can't be close friends. I honestly believe we as a species weren't designed to be that close without some sort of romantic"ness" happening. We aren't talking about the Guy / Girl friend who you see every so often, talk to semi regularly, no not that. When I say close I mean, Going out to lunch and dinner all the time, Talking everyday, sharing like intimate secret **** about each other's lives, etc. There's no way you can do all of this with each other and both not feel anything for each other.

Now whether or not they choose to act on those feelings is another story. But I can't imagine a guy or a girl spending that much time with each other and no feelings arise from either party. 

 

[shoeking2102]

Ask yourself if you would mind your Wife / Husband having a LEGIT bestfriend of the opposite sex. 

 

[hoosierdaddy317]

Yo I've never really been in the friend zone except once in college andebded up smashing. So there's this girl I've knownsince elementary and we've always been cool. We we're in a fake relationship on Facebook and what not. Chilled with her a couple times in the past couple years. I gotta baby mama. She's single to my knowledge.I'm going to Atlanta in a couple weekends to clown so hopefully I can get her drunk and loose.I'm just gonna be on some "you know I always thought you we're cute right" type **** off the henn. Y'all think I can get the yambs?

 

[osh kosh bosh]

If you want to be friends with a girl; be friends.

If you want to be be friends with her hoping that if you bide your time this will lead to a relationship; you're losing.



Most women treat friends like republicans treat illegal immigration, there aint no "pathway to citizenship" for you.

 

[frenchbreadbuilds]

Ask yourself if you would mind your Wife / Husband having a LEGIT bestfriend of the opposite sex. 

If it's the same caliber of relationship I have with my bestfriend that is a girl I would be 150% okay with it. My girlfriend and my bestfriend are actually extremely close as well. If it's genuine then it's genuine. Like osh kosh said if you want to be friends with a girl, be friends. If you've never experienced it I guess I can see why it would be hard to wrap your head around but it can happen and it does happen. Not ever coed relationship has to be sexual/romantic.

 

[timelessflight]

I 've had females that put me in the friendzone, only to not hear from them again when they get into a new relationship

nowadays i just tell them straight up that friendship isn't what im looking for and to call me when you change your mind lol

 

[zapatohead408]

Ehh I disagree

I have one girl thats really a friend. Known her since the 5th grade. She also threw me my best oop in HS. And she was never NOT in a relationship so it was pretty easy not to end up trying to do anything intimate with her. Other than that I have zero capability to be just friends with women.

 
Seriously bros, if a chick gives you some bs like "your like a brother" or "i dont wanna ruin our friendship.." then go all in with it.
Say "hey (insert name here) youre the best girl friend i got so i know i can trust your opinion and you wont be weird with me. does my **** look big to you. or do you think i did a good job man scaping?" and WIO.

Then fall back and let it marinate. Next party or function and you will be outta friendzone junction.... Helps if you got a big one but not required.

I think my barber did that to my moms

what?

 

[senatorjeffsmith]

If you're in the friend zone then you're willingly orbiting a girl. Any time she needs validation she'll seek out one of her beta males. Oh, she's depressed and her hair is a mess? She texts Beta Joe and he tells her how wonderful she is, he gets used and no step closer to ever ever winning her heart. Orbiters are not much better than the lowly White Knights. Also, don't be one of those dudes on social media that's part of a girl's fan club. That business has gotta stop ASAP.

I've known this one girl since college back in 2005 and we had a missed connection. For a couple reasons it never worked out. I've talked to her only a handful of times since 2008 when she disrespected me (That's another story). I never initiate contact with her. In fact a couple years ago I called her out for trying to use me to validate herself or as they say in urban parlance "gas herself". This rightfully made her feel awful and she apologized. I get a text from her every 6 months, I politely reply and keep it moving.

I'm a bit older than most of you but from what I've learned on this Earth is the best way to attract a good woman is to be a man - embrace your masculinity. Forget all the feminist/metro/gender neutral nonsense out there. Women are attracted to tough, take charge, confident and successful men. They're wired to search out the best alpha available. Don't forget what it's like to be a man and don't ever let somebody put you down for being one.

 

[Nike Still Sux]

I remember back in college I would experiment when it came to getting girls.

I noticed that when I would text a girl often to get her attention, they would try to friendzone but if they textd me and I ignored them or didn't text them back till the next day they would actually want me more.

Ultimately to be successfull with girls (or anything else in life for that matter), you have to create value. People want what they can't have. So with girls you have to give them the impression that you don't have any dambs to give and you have other options if they they expect you to chase them

The 11th Man theory all day

 

[frenchbreadbuilds]

lol I'll leave the game to you guys. Dressing well, keeping in shape, having a decent personality, and being social has worked well for me.

 

[Nike Still Sux]

The few times I've been friendzoned, It's always benefited me way beyond having sex with them. It's not always a bad thing if you play the game

 

[cragmatic]

lol I'll leave the game to you guys. Dressing well, keeping in shape, having a decent personality, and being social has worked well for me.

I must not dress well

I used to be the guy who ALWAYS rocked a polo or a button down. Now days I just throw on one of my concert T's and call it a day

I'm definitely in shape. I think I have a good personality. I supposed I could be a little more social.

But mehhhh, most of these girls I see on a daily basis appear to be way too basic anyway. Why should I be trying to impress them when they aren't impressive themselves?

 

[frenchbreadbuilds]

I must not dress well

I used to be the guy who ALWAYS rocked a polo or a button down. Now days I just throw on one of my concert T's and call it a day

I'm definitely in shape. I think I have a good personality. I supposed I could be a little more social.

But mehhhh, most of these girls I see on a daily basis appear to be way too basic anyway. Why should I be trying to impress them when they aren't impressive themselves?

Your goal shouldn't be to impress them though. I lived in a relatively young city right next to NYC. Where everyone has blinders on on a day to day basis just because that how the city is. Approachability is at an all time low. But as I've said before women are attracted to guys that command attention, guys that k ow how to have a good time, and if you have a crew of a few other guys like that, you will be the one being approached by women.

 

[mplsdunk]

lol I'll leave the game to you guys. Dressing well, keeping in shape, having a decent personality, and being social has worked well for me.

I must not dress well

I used to be the guy who ALWAYS rocked a polo or a button down. Now days I just throw on one of my concert T's and call it a day

I'm definitely in shape. I think I have a good personality. I supposed I could be a little more social.

But mehhhh, most of these girls I see on a daily basis appear to be way too basic anyway. Why should I be trying to impress them when they aren't impressive themselves?

I've had numerous girls say they wouldn't have approached me if I had buttons on my shirt. Do you.

 

[tomdiginson]

But mehhhh, most of these girls I see on a daily basis appear to be way too basic anyway. Why should I be trying to impress them when they aren't impressive themselves?

I dress well for myself, but I have to agree with this. Just do you and they will flock.

 

[gentrification]

ENERGY is everything. Whether you rock a t-shirt or a suit.

 

[senatorjeffsmith]

ENERGY is everything. Whether you rock a t-shirt or a suit.

Very true. Posture and body language are important, too.

Too many dudes walk with their heads down looking at the ground. Make it a habit to look straight ahead, be relaxed and walk at a comfortable pace. You'll notice a lot of women walk with heads down because they don't want to be approached. So if you do the same you'll likely be ignored.

 

[BALH ENH]

Walk with your head high, like you got some business about yourself.

You walk too bold, botches find that intimidating. Like you got a gun on you and ****.

 

[Coromanti]

Walk with your head high, like you got some business about yourself.

You walk too bold, botches find that intimidating. Like you got a gun on you and ****.

I walk too bold I think.

Friend of mine says I have an aggressive walk...they call it "the [last name] walk"

Its like a jamaican lean walk with manhattan at rush hour speed...

 

[tr1ll]

How does one walk too bold/agressively??

 

[shogun]

Probably walks like vince mcmahon or does a diddy bop.

 

[frenchbreadbuilds]

How does one walk too bold/agressively??

essentially just dont look like youre full of yourself and be too forward

 

[ohokalright]

now even da way a papi walks warrants criticism

 

[SC kid]

I walk like i still have a tail.

Super sayan monkey

 

[36 ounces]

I walk like I'm the top dawg on the prison compound. Boss'd Up.

Big *** nuts that jingle and sway behind my big *** **** which anchors my swagged out strut