The girl I'm with is displaying strong wifey characteristics.
Cook, clean, nice to waiters (for me that's a big one. i hate people who look down on others), bomb in bed, ambitious.
Here comes the big caveat:
In her dream future, she does not have any biological children, only adopted ones.
She doesn't want her body to be "wrecked", nor does she find the process of raising a child below the age of 3 remotely interesting.
I understand that pregnancy itself is rough + the first few years after are a dramatic shift but I want children of my own and I'm against surrogacy because even if the child is not biologically the related to the woman who carried it, she still gonna feel some type of way about the baby.
Sigh...I'm obviously getting way ahead of myself but what's the point of staying in a relationship when you know from the beginning that you have very different views on children?
And do women usually change their mind about having children?
Coromanti
I'll offer advice from a different perspective. I'm not sure if you stated how old you were, but you're absolutely right in thinking about the things that have been running through your mind. Assuming you're of a certain age. It's just about finding that balance. Have fun, live life, enjoy/indulge but know what the end goal is. If you want to marry, have kids, etc. than that should be what you look for in a female. The ones that don't qualify, interact with them how you please but not to the extent that it takes away from interacting with females that may potentially be everything you're looking for. Why waste your time stringing along a situation that you already know can't work long term? That's a waste of not only her time, but more importantly yours.
do you man. The ultimate end goal is to find the game changer.. that's the flat out truth.
