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Well, yes, it is. It's been that way for quite some time as well, even before I was born, especially when dealing with women who did not have a male role model around while growing up, those who have those unrealistic expectations. See, the real issue is, at least for me it is, I am not a christian. I meet a woman, then telling her that I do not believe as she does, then there must be something wrong with me! I mean, why wouldn't I want to know God?Originally Posted by ricky409
fambs.... does it REALLY get that bad?Originally Posted by AKA LONGSTROKE
This thread has me crackin' up! All I gotta say is that wait until you peeps get a bit older, then you'll see that it is even worse than you've ever dreamed!
Being a well rounded, well read, articulate, then well traveled Black man, you'll see the world a bit differently than those who've never done as much...and then you realize how the world sees you. You pounce upon the stereotype, meeting people, women, of all nationalities, those who may have never thought to deal with Black men, due to the stereotypical images that are purported about US. They find that you may not know every rap lyric that is in the top ten, that you know more about Miles and 'trane, Roy Hargrove, and Herbie Hancock, and that you actually READ, because we are not supposed to be able to that, right? Then the fact that we are able to defend ourselves, not simply because we did a bid, but then don't even start about our clothes actually fitting!
So I try to come home, desiring that wonderful sister, who should be able to appreciate all that I have evolved in to, and what's the first question she asks me?
You're not married, live on your own, make your own paper, you are of a certain age, not a christian nor religious,
are you gay or something?
The marginalization of Black men by Black women is a major issue in Black on Black relationships. It is bad enough that we have to deal with that crap everywhere else, but where it should not happen, it is intensified tenfold.
I see it, and deal with it everyday. The issue is that with these sort of women, not all of them, but most, they want to be taken seriously, yet they live the stereotype to the core.
So why should I take an individual who behaves in a stereotypical fashion seriously again?
i'm on my way out of this college life into the professional world.
i'm still gonna be in grad school, but i'm turning 23 in a few months...
so... are the black women that ... i dont even know what to call it...
what ever it is, are they that?
Most of these sort of women are in love with Jesus Christ, whether or not they are willing to admit that. You've got to be able to walk on water, in order to be perfect for them. What they do no realize is that they are not allowing you your humanity, which is cruel. If I allow myself to make mistakes, who are you to tell me that I cannot?
There are other issues there as well, but it is too long to go into.