If you haven't' watch these
They made a world of difference for me.
Me and my girl have been together for about a year and a half. She is diagnosed depressed and takes prozac and kaladapin (sp?) for anxiety/panic attacks. And bipolar runs in her family (grandfather)
Your story sounds way too familiar. Over the year and a half we have broken up 3 times or so? The smallest things turn into a huge fight as if she just wants to fight. I am a very even/level minded person. I struggle to handle things that are so not realistic. Like getting mad because I answer a question a certain way that she doesn't like and then i get shut out for 6 hours. We have wasted many of days with her laying in bed and me trying to console her for 4-5 hours.
Its a constant struggle for me. It's hard to figure out if im trying to save her or I am really in a mutual mature relationship. When she has her moment of clarity its glorious. When we are great we are great. Its the best relationship i have ever been in. She is so loving and caring. But with the high highs there are really low lows.
We honestly haven't' gone a month without a small fight of some sort that will drag on way too long. I wish i had an answer for you but i empathize with you so so much. The only advice i can give is that yes some times the harsh words are the depression talking. And it is very hard in the moment to say to yourself "she doesn't' really mean this". Try to not let them drag you down. It happens but pull yourself out of the spiral and do something small to keep yourself happy or sane.
Good luck famb and i will check back in here if anything changes on my end. I am at the point where its make or break for me. I get scared that if she has to carry my child she will go through a bout of depression and it will effect my future kid. Or she will not be able to handle full motherhood and panic. I know people outside of my relationship tell me to run or it will never work...but this girl makes me feel things in life i have never felt so it isn't that easy for me.
Those vids are a good look man thanks!
So glad you ran into this thread man. I had that situation last night where I took something the wrong way and I apologized for it but it was too late, she proceeded to stay on the phone with me but the last two hours consisted of me trying to explain why I took it the wrong way, and why she wasn't believing it. The thing with her is she's pretty snappy. She says a lot of things that make you want to react but at times you kinda have to watch what you say because she can def dish it out but she can't take any bit of it. It's hard because she's not slow to confront you she will let you know if there's a issue and usually if she has to speak on it it's a down hill battle. Just recently found out that she takes meds but does not take them everyday. She says she doesn't want to become dependent on them but it's clear in my opinion that she needs them more then not. I'm feeling like you, idk if I'm trying to save her or what, but since Friday we have been back and forth over nonsense in my opinion and one misunderstanding can kill a whole day of positive activities.
I feel like I'm taking one step forward and two steps backwards at times.
