NT help.. anyone know about Uterine cancer? or any cancer..

[leonard109]

i just got news my grandma at age 82 got uterine/uterus cancer..
my dad said the doctor said it was in the fourth stage already..
now i did some reading.. i know stage iv is probably hopeless already..
even if it was in stages 2 or 3 i doubt she'll be able to take on the treatment..

anyways.. does anyone know how much longer we can expect? i'm going to visit her as soon as i can, but i want to at least know the time.. is it days, weeks, months?

funny 'cause on sunday when i visited she was still chilling on the couch watching tv with us.. was just a bit weak thats all..
also.. i think the family is trying not to let her know.. is it a good thing?
my girlfriend asked me.. what if she would have wanted to know? what if she had things she wanted to do first?
well i'm kinda lost at the moment..
if anyone got some info or experience they can share, i'll appreciate it.

 

[scott frost]

At your grandma's age and the stage the cancer is at, I wouldnt try and put any timeframe on it to be honest. I would go and pay your respects. I recently lost my grandfather to an infection, they thought he had more time but it just took over and his body couldnt fight it anymore. I certainly made sure to see him before he passed. God speed.

 

[balloonoboy]

It's not a good thing not to tell her she has cancer.

They need to let her know, so she can come to peace with it. When you see that she can accept it, it will make it easier for the rest of the fam.

I don't think it's best to put a timeline on these kind of things. Just be there for her if she needs anything.

 

[rob kylan]

I've seen it all now. You came to the General forum to ask questions about cancer...? Really though.

 

[DCAllAfrican]

Sorry to hear about that man. Hope she gets well.

No disrespect but why do you think anyone on here can answer that question better than my man Google?

 

[leonard109]

I definitely have already read up about it on google. just wanted to hear other things about it, talk about it, instead of going through the same pages of medical information again..

 

[ksteezy]

At her age she will go very quick, cancer is quite at first but once it develops it takes you and there is not much you can do, if the person is strong the treatment along with the disease will break them down, if the person is older and not very strong, it will come to a point where they will get very sick and go in a very short time....whatever you guys do, don't decide to be selfish and plug her to life support, many hospitals will recommend this, just to juice her for some money and take advantage of the family who want their love ones to live forever...just accept the fact that she has lived her life and it's time to go, when she ends up in a hospital have her placed on palliative care, sedate her and let her go peacefully and as painless as possible, none of that "let's tube her and plug her to all sorts of catherers and monitors" have her rot on a hospital bed and then die anyways....good luck OP and hope your family is acceptant of the fact that death is inevitable and part of life.

 

[tkthegirl]

Well for my grandma we opted for Chemotherapy and Radical Hysterectomy during that stage.
She was left with a big hole and a colostomy bag. The chemotherapy left her like a zombie so we quit it.
She stayed with us for 9 months till she passed and did so in hospice where she preferred.
She was 58 with HIV and Hepatitis B.
Her condition is probably different than your grandmother.


I would suggest you tell her.