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Wait what? The crack in the door was a metaphor not an example of how I'd want that scenario to go down. You know you're aware but it's not on the table for all to see, not needed to be up for discussion, it's not a need to know. Sex education is fine but letting me know they're doing it is another. As far as I'm concerned one precedes the other and I can inform on one without being informed by them on the other. There'd be no me catching any of my children cuz I'm the only one having sex under my roof. I'm saying that I'd rather have some idea that is something she has done not that she is currently doing it while I'm in the same place a room away. So maybe you misunderstood what I was saying cuz that's just ridiculousIll son, why did she tell you that? Were y?ll fighting? Does she hate you that much?
I wouldn't want my future daughter(s) telling me that just leads to worse ideas of them topping dudes off, doing anal w/e other nasty things I imagine and actually have done with other females. I'd rather sorta figure it out on my own, like cracking a door open a sliver and then closing when you got a little idea of what's going on on the other side. I'd much rather find out she's not a virgin when she says she pregnant.
I mean damn man, 16. She could be one of them.
I feel your pain man, that must hurt I'll drink a 5th of yak for you onewearz. Watching them freaks in the other building at work won't be the same for a while.
I couldn't disagree with you more.
Why does she have to hate OP? Why can't it be that they have a great relationship and she needs advice?
So you would rather find out by catching your daughter getting smashed and pretend like nothing happened??
I would much rather have a relationship where my children feel comfortable telling me these things than getting a phone call at 3am telling me that my child is never coming home.
As for the situation for OP. We just different cuz I see it very differently than you. Advice? For a 16 year old? In NYC? I didn't need my parents to school me on sex, the do's and don'ts and what not. She's already came to her parents that the deed has been done. Aint no turning back now. Actually what advice would a parent be giving that she should already know? It can't be about protection. No 16 year old is that dumb. So only thing left is relationship advice.
I'm not really focused on my child's comfort level with me and that issue. They can be comfortable with it but I'm explicitly telling them not to tell me that they're no longer versions and currently having sex. They can come to me with news that I'm a grandfather, sexual preference, I'm a murderer, I'm religious, etc. but I don't need to know that they're having sex and outside of AIDs (stds can be treated at the free clinic) there really shouldn't be a reason to want to tell me.
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