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Mines don't mind. She stays laced as well. My daughter is spoiled as all hell lol, so I'm covered..
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Originally Posted by Dirtylicious
i'm going to be the voice of dissent out of all you kids...
when you are married..it's not my(yours) money and your(hers) money...it's OUR money.
the fact that you're bringing home most the proverbial bacon doesn't matter...you both should have an EQUAL say on your HOUSEHOLD's budget.
You're being the equivalent of a financial bully b/c you're the bigger breadwinner.. the whole "might is right"
Your household income is not just yours anymore... it belongs to both of you...
it's not your money, and then whatever's leftover after the bills and after I spend on what I want...then the rest is "ours"
..that's what being married is.
Originally Posted by Dirtylicious
i'm going to be the voice of dissent out of all you kids...
when you are married..it's not my(yours) money and your(hers) money...it's OUR money.
the fact that you're bringing home most the proverbial bacon doesn't matter...you both should have an EQUAL say on your HOUSEHOLD's budget.
You're being the equivalent of a financial bully b/c you're the bigger breadwinner.. the whole "might is right"
Your household income is not just yours anymore... it belongs to both of you...
it's not your money, and then whatever's leftover after the bills and after I spend on what I want...then the rest is "ours"
..that's what being married is.
Originally Posted by ksteezy
I met my wife 11 years ago, as long as she's known me i have always been into sneakers....over the years due to lack of extra cash i had to prioritized and well my obsession with shoes had to take a backseat to other more important things, anyhow we got married a year ago and around that same time i landed a second part time job, this brings in at least an extra 1600$ every two weeks to play with. Since then my drive to buy shoes kicked into full gear, bill are still getting paid, she still gets laced, we still go out and vacation and food is always on the table and our savings still growing, not as fast as it would if i didn't spend 500$ every two weeks on shoes but still. Now she happens to have a huge issue with my spending on this habit, she thinks is immature and that at 28 years of age i should focus on other things, thing is i feel i got our lives covered anyways. I mean is she right?...how do you guys balance your wives/girlfriends with your collecting hobby?? or do they fully understand and don't care??.....just curious...depending on the answers ill probably show her this thread so that maybe she can understand a bit better
she thinks NT is responsible for this habit to have resurfaced now that im older.
BTW I told her about this dude i saw at the release of the YOTRs with his girl and two little daughters on line and said thats when she sees me doing some +%@@ like that, then she should be concerned...
Originally Posted by ksteezy
I met my wife 11 years ago, as long as she's known me i have always been into sneakers....over the years due to lack of extra cash i had to prioritized and well my obsession with shoes had to take a backseat to other more important things, anyhow we got married a year ago and around that same time i landed a second part time job, this brings in at least an extra 1600$ every two weeks to play with. Since then my drive to buy shoes kicked into full gear, bill are still getting paid, she still gets laced, we still go out and vacation and food is always on the table and our savings still growing, not as fast as it would if i didn't spend 500$ every two weeks on shoes but still. Now she happens to have a huge issue with my spending on this habit, she thinks is immature and that at 28 years of age i should focus on other things, thing is i feel i got our lives covered anyways. I mean is she right?...how do you guys balance your wives/girlfriends with your collecting hobby?? or do they fully understand and don't care??.....just curious...depending on the answers ill probably show her this thread so that maybe she can understand a bit better
she thinks NT is responsible for this habit to have resurfaced now that im older.
BTW I told her about this dude i saw at the release of the YOTRs with his girl and two little daughters on line and said thats when she sees me doing some +%@@ like that, then she should be concerned...
ITA. I'm surprised it took this long for someone to say this straight up.Originally Posted by Dirtylicious
i'm going to be the voice of dissent out of all you kids...
when you are married..it's not my(yours) money and your(hers) money...it's OUR money.
the fact that you're bringing home most the proverbial bacon doesn't matter...you both should have an EQUAL say on your HOUSEHOLD's budget.
You're being the equivalent of a financial bully b/c you're the bigger breadwinner.. the whole "might is right"
Your household income is not just yours anymore... it belongs to both of you...
it's not your money, and then whatever's leftover after the bills and after I spend on what I want...then the rest is "ours"
..that's what being married is.
ITA. I'm surprised it took this long for someone to say this straight up.Originally Posted by Dirtylicious
i'm going to be the voice of dissent out of all you kids...
when you are married..it's not my(yours) money and your(hers) money...it's OUR money.
the fact that you're bringing home most the proverbial bacon doesn't matter...you both should have an EQUAL say on your HOUSEHOLD's budget.
You're being the equivalent of a financial bully b/c you're the bigger breadwinner.. the whole "might is right"
Your household income is not just yours anymore... it belongs to both of you...
it's not your money, and then whatever's leftover after the bills and after I spend on what I want...then the rest is "ours"
..that's what being married is.
Originally Posted by BlackStilettos
ITA. I'm surprised it took this long for someone to say this straight up.Originally Posted by Dirtylicious
i'm going to be the voice of dissent out of all you kids...
when you are married..it's not my(yours) money and your(hers) money...it's OUR money.
the fact that you're bringing home most the proverbial bacon doesn't matter...you both should have an EQUAL say on your HOUSEHOLD's budget.
You're being the equivalent of a financial bully b/c you're the bigger breadwinner.. the whole "might is right"
Your household income is not just yours anymore... it belongs to both of you...
it's not your money, and then whatever's leftover after the bills and after I spend on what I want...then the rest is "ours"
..that's what being married is.
At the end of the day, what you do with the money brought into the household affects not only you, but your wife, and your children (if you have any). If any man (or woman) who is the breadwinner resorts to 'it's MY money, I can do as I please even if it causes friction in my marriage', they have no reason getting/staying married, imo.The 'what's your is yours and what's mine is mine' does not work with marriage. It just doesn't. $1,000 on sneakers is insane to me; at 28, you should be focusing on padding your savings (which you admit is not where it should be) and your retirement/investments. Maybe it's because I'm engaged and have seriously begun planning my future with my SO, but I know I would be very, very upset if he spent that much money on anything material just because he 'could'. I could drop a few thousand on handbags, but I wouldn't do that because I know saving that money would only benefit us in the long run.