Intervention?

[justhotkicks]

Marijuana is ruining my friend's life. He went from college grad with honors to working in finance to fired and unemployed. Once very athletic and fit,now he's 50 lbs. overweight and flabby. He had it all; great job, money, and a great girlfriend. All he has now is weed. He sits at home all day, wakes uppast noon, and does nothing. Smokes weed, plays video games.

My friends and I expressed our concern and he vowed to make a conscious effort to quit and get his life back together, for his own sake. But now, I feel like Ineed to take action and seek professional help. This Friday, he called me around 11:30 PM while I was out, saying "dude...I need your help bro..."and started giggling. I was concerned, so I went to his house, and saw him sitting in his room, in his boxers. He defecated and urinated in his pants, and hewas so baked that he didn't even know how to clean himself up. A 27-year-old man with a mind if a 3-year-old. I directed him to that bathroom and he took ashower, and his mom, who woke up from sleep, cleaned his desk chair. After he showered, I told him to go to sleep, and I spoke with his mom for a while.

I phoned him the next day and told him he needed to get his life on track. He agreed, and we had a nice convo. I ended the phonecall by telling him to come toour friend's Superbowl party the following day. He never showed because he was high, and his mom took his car keys away.

I know there are a lot of marijuana users who are "responsible" with it, but it does have the potential to cripple someone. I don't want to losemy friend while he still has time to bounce back. Has anyone ever been involved in an intervention, or seeked professional help for yourself or someone youknow?

 

[justhotkicks]

Yes.

 

[951guero]

Yeah man that sounds like the best idea

Ive been through this situation before with my cousin that lived with us over a span of 6 years. He got lost in crystal and became a hardcore dealer and wellhes locked up for life now, i feel you man, help him out before its too late

 

[rsdplaya]

i had a situation similar to yours...

met a kid freshman year of college, became good friends with him, he was on track to get a full ride for track.

all he does now is smoke, smoke, smoke, and sometimes sniff.

his grades started to slip end of freshman year and into sophomore year...

his parents gave him an offer: get at least a 3.0 GPA without dropping any classes and they'd buy him any car he wanted up to $30k. dude dropped a classthe second week

weed can messsssss you up if you're not careful.

 

[gboy1230]

i think when it comes to smoking mj its more of the person will to stop....... yes you can keep telling him wat he needs to do and help him guide his life backon track. but if he doesnt just cut it out completely then i honestly dont see him stopping.

 

[rko2004]

I guess weed is HARMFUL contrary to belief especially in the wrong hands. I've never personally been involved, but I think you should get him professionalhelp. Does He believe in God? You could try to get him in a church. They arent perfect but there are good people in them.

 

[boomatic206]

Youtube the show Intervention that was on A&E.

 

[militaryiv]

Originally Posted by justhotkicks


This Friday, he called me around 11:30 PM while I was out, saying "dude...I need your help bro..." and started giggling. I was concerned, so I went to his house, and saw him sitting in his room, in his boxers. He defecated and urinated in his pants, and he was so baked that he didn't even know how to clean himself up.

dude was chiefin the brown bomber

 

[wildout4]

u are never too high to *@@% urself. he has to be on something else too.

 

[fromthatown]

I mean my boy was straight hooked on coke. And the way, I approach it, was real slowly. I wouldn't be all in his ear about it. But I tell him every once ina while when he was sober. I told him the yowder is changing his personality. This was like 2 or 3 times. Then 1 day when it was a cool night, and he lookedreally all there. I told him. "Look man, you know you better than this, we all hung out from the start because we all know we gonna be some successfuldudes. I know you got something inside you that's be bothering u, but getting high ain't really gonna do anything for your problem. You're gonnawake up with the same damn problem and you gonna be downing from the coke.You know I love you man, or else I wouldn't even care to tell you to stop."


And my boy was just thinking about it and he slowed his roll. He still does coke every once in a while, but not to the destructive level he use to be on it.But I learned something new about my boy. He said, he thought I was hating on him, having his fun, when I told him to stop using the coke. He said hedidn't listen at first because his thinking was distorted. That's what users do though. They surround themselves with people that will say yes morethan the people that will say no. But a real homeboy doesn't fake the funk and just use drugs as a way to bond. I told my boy what was changing about hispersonality, like he wasn't as outgoing or didn't want to go to places like he did before. You just got to really care and be honest with your boy, butdon't be like his daddy, but more of the friend. Plus he really has to want to change cause you really can't do anything for him if he doesn't.

Edit: BTW this took like a year, it wasn't a fast process at all. If this guy is really your friend, and you look at him as a brother, hang in there man.You lucky it's only weed. If he decides to jump onto something else. It might even be crazier.

 

[eight2one]

sounds like a perfect episode of intervention.

 

[nawth21]

You sure it's JUST weed? If so, where can I get some of that stuff? Christ I've never been that high in my life

 

[marleysprotege]

i have no sympathy for someone who lets themselves get like that ... that being said, ive never ever ever ever heard of someone letting weed get this out ofcontrol ... where does he get money for the weed? you have to either cut off the source or call the cops if hes growing it ...

i know people who smoke weed all day every day ... and they arent #*#$!!%* on themselves

 

[stangznkickz50]

Originally Posted by MarleysProtege

i have no sympathy for someone who lets themselves get like that ... that being said, ive never ever ever ever heard of someone letting weed get this out of control ... where does he get money for the weed? you have to either cut off the source or call the cops if hes growing it ...

i know people who smoke weed all day every day ... and they arent #*#$!!%* on themselves

X100!!! An intervention for WEED!?!?!? Your boy needs a good wake up call/slap across the face! He's got no self control, and considering he's 27 years old, jobless and living at home with his mom, I take it she supports his $%!... She needs togive him an ultimatum. Get your life on track or ****!!

Dude's life ruined cuz of weed?

BTW. I know what you're going through cuz I have a buddy that sits at home alll day every day smokin weed and playing video games/gambling poker online. Smartest kid we went to high school with. Had a free ride to UMASS Amherst... Blew it all away. Now all he thinks about is XBOX and Poker while smokin weedall day.... LAZY PEICE OF %%!$ is what I tell him he is.... He tells me he knows he is.

It's all up to the person to get their priorities straight.

 

[crumbs]

what herbs he smoking that got him like that? just some green did all that? and i dont get how people can fall off so bad but its all self inflicted so... takehis #!$ to rehab

 

[stillin729]

damn I didnt know anyone could do that from weed

thats pretty pathetic

IMO that's the equivalent to drinking 2 beers and acting all f-ed up

 

[dirtylicious]

He's got no self control
I always laugh when I see people use this..
well duh.
he's an ADDICT.


just like any drug.. there are people who are more prone to addiction than others.

 

[stangznkickz50]

Originally Posted by Dirtylicious

He's got no self control

I always laugh when I see people use this..
well duh.
he's an ADDICT.


just like any drug.. there are people who are more prone to addiction than others.

lol what? So, I smoke weed; I must be an addict because I have no self control???
I smoke weed just about everyday. I work 40 hours a week and attain a 3.6 GPA while taking 5 classes a semester majoring in Criminal Justice..... I guessI've got pretty good self control to be able to keep my priorities in check while still smoking a natural herb that supposedly is "addictive".
Marijuana is not a drug one becomes addicted to. Their is nothing in marijuana that causes addiction to it.

You could say that you're mentally addicted to it because you have found yourself in the same routines because of it. aka: NO SELF CONTROL.

 

[nawth21]

While MJ may not cause physical addiction, like other drugs, it can be addictive psychologically. Cocaine is another drug that is not "physically"addictive but we all know people do become addicted to it.

 

[ericberry14]

Originally Posted by Nawth21

While MJ may not cause physical addiction, like other drugs, it can be addictive psychologically. Cocaine is another drug that is not "physically" addictive but we all know people do become addicted to it.

are you sure cocaine isnt physically addictive

 

[marleysprotege]

Originally Posted by StangzNkickz50

lol what? So, I smoke weed; I must be an addict because I have no self control???
I smoke weed just about everyday. I work 40 hours a week and attain a 3.6 GPA while taking 5 classes a semester majoring in Criminal Justice..... I guess I've got pretty good self control to be able to keep my priorities in check while still smoking a natural herb that supposedly is "addictive".
Marijuana is not a drug one becomes addicted to. Their is nothing in marijuana that causes addiction to it.

You could say that you're mentally addicted to it because you have found yourself in the same routines because of it. aka: NO SELF CONTROL.

 

[nawth21]

Originally Posted by ericberry14

Originally Posted by Nawth21

While MJ may not cause physical addiction, like other drugs, it can be addictive psychologically. Cocaine is another drug that is not "physically" addictive but we all know people do become addicted to it.

are you sure cocaine isnt physically addictive

It is, sort of, but not like other drugs are. Crack and freebase excluded. It's not the same as other hard drugs though, but it's beenawhile since I took drug related courses. But there is something about it that makes it different from other drug addictions.

 

[dirtylicious]

So, I smoke weed; I must be an addict because I have no self control???
where did I say YOU have no self control. You smoke week everyday and are ok with it....fine. that's you.
like I said... just like any drug.. there are people who are more prone to addiction than others.

sheesh... people are so defensive

Marijuana is not a drug one becomes addicted to. Their[sic] is nothing in marijuana that causes addiction to it.
You need to learn the difference between physical and mental addiction.

People can detoxify their body of a physically addicting drug...but the mental aspect of addiction is easily the harder aspect to get over.
To say that people can't get addicted to MJ is being ignorant of the psychology of addiction

 

[shannonscrooks]

A friend of mine thought he pissed himself because he was high as hell, but this is the 1st time I have ever heard of someone actually $!$%@*@+ themselvesbecause they smoked themselves ******ed.

 

[stangznkickz50]

Originally Posted by Nawth21

While MJ may not cause physical addiction, like other drugs, it can be addictive psychologically. Cocaine is another drug that is not "physically" addictive but we all know people do become addicted to it.

Exactly. It being psychological is why I say it's all up to the person's will power to either do it or not do it.

I'm not completely sure on cocaine being physically addictive, but the "endorphins"?(spellcheck please) that make you feel good with laughter andemotion get ruined after repeated drug use; so it gets tougher to feel happy and motivated after damaging your endorphins, hence feeling as if you need to do adrug to be happy.