How do you TELL your girlfriend she's not your #1 priority? UPDATE: Broken Up

[jumpmanpro97]

I hear y'all, it's tough making that call cuz feelings got real deep, 2 years together.

2 years is really nothing tho. How has the 2 years felt tho? Like 10+ years? The best relationships are the ones that even seem that long. I've been with my current gf for almost 6 years and it doesn't even feel that long. My ex that I was with was only 3 years but it felt like decades not much fun at all.

 

[xsourdieselx]

if shes getting on your nerves
then tell that girl to curve
word to killa

 

[jay6jay]

2 years is really nothing tho. How has the 2 years felt tho? Like 10+ years? The best relationships are the ones that even seem that long. I've been with my current gf for almost 6 years and it doesn't even feel that long. My ex that I was with was only 3 years but it felt like decades not much fun at all.

What's up with the multiple long term relationships seems like such a waste

 

[niquefreak94]

OP FAIL!

1. I can't take any college student in a committed relationship seriously. If you have a girl in college you're a simp.

what?

anyway...you WILDIN' OP.

like why are you coming to NT w/ this?

you don't feel disrespected? it's nothing we can say to help you bro.

you just not cut from the cloth that would lead you to hit her w/ the westbrook face and break it off.

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[jay6jay]

Relationships in college are dumb but if you are the type of dude that won't cheat around I don't see the issue.There is nothing simpish about being in a committed relationship.

 

[rell826]

Relationships in college are dumb but if you are the type of dude that won't cheat around I don't see the issue.There is nothing simpish about being in a committed relationship.

I personally disagree with relationships in college being dumb. In your later years, there's nothing wrong with it. I know a few cats that are married to their girlfriends from college. Better than playing the field as an adult in the real world.

 

[cedric ceballos]

Here is where the problem lies.
Here is why its never going to change.


Even a husband should not have to take care of everything.
It should be 50/50 all the way.

Not because I am a fake feminist, but because in the blink of an eye a spouse can die.
A spouse can get laid off, a spouse can get into an accident that leaves the temporally or permanent disabled.
I need to know that you can be financially stable if I can no longer bring in income.


The reason why dudes our doing this is because they are playing the role of a husband
The one who controls the money has the power and men want to have power.

I'm all for 50/50. Ill be damned if my wife were to play the Peggy Bundy role on my watch.

However if me and her were to have children, id want those to be her priority unless she wants to switch it up and let me do the stay at home dad thing. As a parent, raising a child is a job and id rather the kid(s) be in her care rather then babysitters and aftershool programs.

If kids weren't in the picture then things would be divided up 50/50 but id do alot for my wife and I would expect the same from her.

Money isn't the end all be all for a good relationship among 2 reasonable rational people. These simp boys do all this above and beyond stuff which screws everything up though. You barely met her and got with her 2 months ago and your paying her bills, buying her jewelry and gifts regularly and she don't put a third of the effort you put into her into you. That's where it goes wrong. A relationship should be a 2 way street but many of these current guys (I'm assuming they grew up without a strong male figure in their life) are content with giving her 125% while at best on a good day shell give you 35% effort in return. Its one thing to mess up like this with 1 girl but these dudes do it mess up and do the same exact thing over again.

 

[fontaine]

I personally disagree with relationships in college being dumb. In your later years, there's nothing wrong with it. I know a few cats that are married to their girlfriends from college. Better than playing the field as an adult in the real world.

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[marco23]

dead her famb...
 

 

[keel252]

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No way dudes believe some of the stuff they write up here.

 

[cedric ceballos]

And on another note while its fresh in my head. Some dudes allow these girls to walk all over them.

A friend of mines younger brother played in some Mexican mariachi band in Texas thay would travel state to state and perform quite a lot of places and he was pretty talented. (You would think he would swimming in the Latina yambz due to his situation but no he's a simp)

He got with this girl. Pretty face, decent body but a dime a dozen with no job or desire to find one and not even a high school ged, especially for someone in his position where he was making decent $$ off that performing money. About 3 months in the relationship he quit the band so he could work more (aka spend more time with his girl). Dude would buy her everything she wanted, would pay for her and her homegirls tabs when they would go out to eat and drink. He was buying her jewelry just because. He would like and comment all her FB pics, his default and cover photo were him and her together and most his posts would be about them or pics of them.

I noticed but didn't think much of it at the time that she would rarerly like or respond to those posts or pics and would minamily respond to his lovey dovey comments he left on her page. I didn't chill with them on a regular basis like that but I could tell his was way more into her then she was into him. She had no pics of him on her page either.

Fast forward a year later and he changes his pic to just him and said that she deactivated her FB and that they were on a "break" but they were getting married and he was engaged to her. In actuality her page was up she just blocked him and all his family on there.

Next thing you know they have some huge argument and she sent him a video of her topping some dude off while wearing the anniversary necklace he got her and she drank his kids.

Dude was heartbroken but I think he because a man from it because I've noticed he's been treating women alot more like how most of them should be treated going off how they act.

 

[cedric ceballos]

I personally disagree with relationships in college being dumb. In your later years, there's nothing wrong with it. I know a few cats that are married to their girlfriends from college. Better than playing the field as an adult in the real world.

I've seen some of your posts. You tend to have more traditional view when it comes to dating and that whole scene. That's a good thing though. Sadly its becoming a declining quality in young people of both genders so the women who take dating and relationships seriously and have a level of appreciation for what their man brings to the table and vice versa are appreciated.

 

[guccjermaine]

 

No way dudes believe some of the stuff they write up here.

 

[shoefreakbaby]

I'm all for 50/50. Ill be damned if my wife were to play the Peggy Bundy role on my watch.

However if me and her were to have children, id want those to be her priority unless she wants to switch it up and let me do the stay at home dad thing. As a parent, raising a child is a job and id rather the kid(s) be in her care rather then babysitters and aftershool programs.

If kids weren't in the picture then things would be divided up 50/50 but id do alot for my wife and I would expect the same from her.

Money isn't the end all be all for a good relationship among 2 reasonable rational people. These simp boys do all this above and beyond stuff which screws everything up though. You barely met her and got with her 2 months ago and your paying her bills, buying her jewelry and gifts regularly and she don't put a third of the effort you put into her into you. That's where it goes wrong. A relationship should be a 2 way street but many of these current guys (I'm assuming they grew up without a strong male figure in their life) are content with giving her 125% while at best on a good day shell give you 35% effort in return. Its one thing to mess up like this with 1 girl but these dudes do it mess up and do the same exact thing over again.

Word on the street is having sex with your man is a form of "effort"


"why does he pay all your bills though"

"because I let him have sex with me"

So basically although she may not be buying him things and paying for things, the fact that she is letting him date her and have sex then he is obligated to pay for things



Here I was here thinking sex was enjoyable to both parties, but what do I know.




*pets house cat*

No way dudes believe some of the stuff they write up here.

Its his opinion that it is better than playing the field, dont see what the problem is

 

[216301baller]

which cat

 

[Mark Antony]

which cat

More relevant than you think, she got tons.

 

[cedric ceballos]

Word on the street is having sex with your man is a form of "effort"


"why does he pay all your bills though"

"because I let him have sex with me"

So basically although she may not be buying him things and paying for things, the fact that she is letting him date her and have sex then he is obligated to pay for things



Here I was here thinking sex was enjoyable to both parties, but what do I know.




*pets cat*

I second what 216301 baller just said.

In the case you described, I blame it on the dudes for allowing this to happen. Hell I wish prostitution were legalized to take the leverage away as well. But for him to see paying her bills in return for sex as a fair tradeoff. Especially if he's putting it on her right as well is completely silly.

The power of the box makes dudes act and think in illogical ways I guess though.

 

[rustlenomics]

as soon as she mentioned her ex you should've ended it.

sounds like a brat, move on.

 

[keel252]

*pets house cat*
Its his opinion that it is better than playing the field, dont see what the problem is

Maybe I took it the wrong way, kinda felt like he was saying its a bad thing to play the field after college.

For me personally I realized if I would've married my college GF it would've been a disaster. No way in hell I knew what I wanted in a marriage at 22 and fresh out of school. Now that I have a career and on my own I know what I want and wanna enjoy the single life a bit. Can't knock people who marry their school gfs.


Is this more of a traditional or cultural thing?


Marrying young I mean..I know a hand full of white chick at my job or married straight out of school.

 

[shoefreakbaby]

Idk but I think he is saying its better to marry your college GF then be an old (40's) guy playing the field.
I dont think he meant marry your college GF right after of college

 

[niquefreak94]

*pets house cat*
Its his opinion that it is better than playing the field, dont see what the problem is

you ain't know?

relationships played out and so is personal preference.

monogamy is a beta male desire.

 

[keel252]

Idk but I think he is saying its better to marry your college GF then be an old (40's) guy playing the field.
I dont think he meant marry your college GF right after of college

Not gonna lie being that 40+ single guy in the club scares the living **** outta me.

 

[joepac12]

Basically westbrooke face and find new yambs. No female ever called me a risky investment lol

 

[Mark Antony]

Idk but I think he is saying its better to marry your college GF then be an old (40's) guy playing the field.
I dont think he meant marry your college GF right after of college

Not gonna lie being that 40+ single guy in the club scares the living **** outta me.

Word, not bout that life.

 

[jumpmanpro97]

What's up with the multiple long term relationships seems like such a waste

Gotta learn and find out what works for you and what doesn't. I can see why there's so much divorce going around. Dudes wifiing the first chick that comes their way.