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At 37, I’ve come to the conclusion and realistic peace that I may not get married or have children, I’m slowly accepting it in peace.

I'm about to turn 40 here in a couple months... and pretty much at the same spot. I was already previously married though, so that portion of your comment may be a blessing
 
Reminds me of this dude at work, retired military officer, in corporate sales, in great shape and still wavy in his late 50s at this point talking about "I might want kids one day". He deadass looks like he's in his 30s though and was running through em.
 
At 37, I’ve come to the conclusion and realistic peace that I may not get married or have children, I’m slowly accepting it in peace.

i get being content without them @37 you still have a more than decent runway but do you really want these things? if so, what stopping you from getting them??
 
Reminds me of this dude at work, retired military officer, in corporate sales, in great shape and still wavy in his late 50s at this point talking about "I might want kids one day". He deadass looks like he's in his 30s though and was running through em.
Its a different world now. Bunch of baddies in their 30s and 40s. Thats around the divorced age as well. You keep yourself in shape and its easy pickings.
 
i get being content without them @37 you still have a more than decent runway but do you really want these things? if so, what stopping you from getting them??
37 a lil young for that viewpoint so it’s Most likely outta self defeat n frustration …May not have the best luck with the ladies so it’s probly easy to say F it at times
 
i get being content without them @37 you still have a more than decent runway but do you really want these things? if so, what stopping you from getting them??
Well, here’s the thing. The biggest thing that’s causing me to be single is a lot of women have children from failed relationships(out of wet lock) and I know it’s slim, but I really stand on being with someone that doesn’t have children. I want my lady to have her first kid as I have my first kid and learn to be parents together. Trail and error together. I know at my age it’s very slim to find, but I have faith that they’re out there. I could’ve been in numerous relationships since I been single, but I turned away 3 or 4 women because they have children from failed relationships. I know it hurt their feelings, but I just can’t do it. It just seems like a disaster waiting to happen and I don’t want no parts of it. In that essence, I would rather be alone and not deal with that potential headache that I could easily avoid. I know I get a-lot of flack from women saying this, but I really stand on that. I also accept that if I don’t get children, it won’t be the end of the world. I’m okay if my future lady doesn’t want children, also.

I almost tried it last year(she’s a vice principal and got a lot going for herself), but something in my mind told me to back off and I’m glad I did. I know she resents me to the fullest, but I just got to accept that and move on. I would smash though lol, but I know that’s not going to happen.

But, overall, I want someone that’s loyal and feminine. Someone that can hold her end of a good conversation. These days, a lot of women may look good, but their conversational skills are extremely abysmal. I’m learning as I’m much older now how a good conversation on a day to day basis is such a turn on to me. It shows me that she’s fully interested. I’m more of deep conversationalist and I severely hate small talk with a passion. Lastly, as far as the feminine part, a lot of women want to be men and be dominant. A overly dominant women gives me PTSD and had enough childhood trauma’s having overly aggressive mother. Don’t want no parts of that.


That’s my spill…
 
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Well, here’s the thing. The biggest thing that’s causing me to be single is a lot of women have children from failed relationships(out of wet lock) and I know it’s slim, but I really stand on being with someone that doesn’t have children. I want my lady to have her first kid as I have my first kid and learn to be parents together. Trail and error together. I know at my age it’s very slim to find, but I have faith that they’re out there. I could’ve been in numerous relationships since I been single, but I turned away 3 or 4 women because they have children from failed relationships. I know it hurt their feelings, but I just can’t do it. It just seems like a disaster waiting to happen and I don’t want no parts of it. In that essence, I would rather be alone and not deal with that potential headache that I could easily avoid. I know I get a-lot of flack from women saying this, but I really stand on that. I also accept that if I don’t get children, it won’t be the end of the world. I’m okay if my future lady doesn’t want children, also.

I almost tried it last year(she’s a vice principal and got a lot going for herself), but something in my mind told me to back off and I’m glad I did. I know she resents me to the fullest, but I just got to accept that and move on. I would smash though lol, but I know that’s not going to happen.

But, overall, I want someone that’s loyal and feminine. Someone that can hold her end of a good conversation. These days, a lot of women may look good, but their conversational skills are extremely abysmal. I’m learning as I’m much older now how a good conversation on a day to day basis is such a turn on to me. It shows me that she’s fully interested. I’m more of deep conversationalist and I severely hate small talk with a passion. Lastly, as far as the feminine part, a lot of women want to be men and be dominant. A overly dominant women gives me PTSD and had enough childhood trauma’s having overly aggressive mother. Don’t want no parts of that.


That’s my spill…

ah, i see…at least you’re still in the game/optimistic. i will say that, as much as i would agree w/the assessment about many women (& most folk generally) not being adept conversationalists, getting to that level of understanding takes time to get over/through that small talk/superficial period & is a burdensome expectation to have upfront.

the expectations folk have for their significant other to be all these different things is also a big contributing factor to why so many folk aren’t getting/staying together
 
ah, i see…at least you’re still in the game/optimistic. i will say that, as much as i would agree w/the assessment about many women (& most folk generally) not being adept conversationalists, getting to that level of understanding takes time to get over/through that small talk/superficial period & is a burdensome expectation to have upfront.

the expectations folk have for their significant other to be all these different things is also a big contributing factor to why so many folk aren’t getting/staying together
Glad you understand. A lot of people make a mockery out of my expectations, which I don’t think is a lot.
 
You welcome to pull up man - I’m not the planner, but I will for the next one
Gonna be in Utah those two weeks surrounding the summit or I would try to. Wife almost went crazy last time I blew through a weekend without her. Gotta keep myself safe.
 
I’m just picturing the Mighty Ducks roller blading through The Mall of America. Do it boys.


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