your boy is 0/2 in recent weeks. finally cut it off with the botanical gardens woman. really nice person, great emotional chemistry, but ultimately i wasn’t into her physically. tried to convince myself i could make it work but once that thought crossed my mind, it was a wrap for me. i was being selfish and avoided the break up convo because, as a people pleaser myself, i didn’t want her to feel bad or disappointed. finally did it and it went well.
took some time off the apps and got back on Hinge recently. yesterday, met up for a drink with a travel nurse from kansas, who moved to Oakland. contrary to botanical gardens, i was hella into her physically and just wanted to smash off the rip. unfortunately, i’ve never been so pissed off by a first date ever. for a majority of the time, she complained about the city and how no one is safe out here. talked incessantly about how her car window was broken into and how she doesn’t like walking to her car to her hospital. she found every piece of energy to **** on Oakland, the cost of living and constantly talked about how southern california food is better. i told her i was from here and did my part to talk about the rich culture and community that exists and how it’s far more prevalent than the reputation of crime she’s been sold. i could tell i was getting pissed because i was just cutting her off every time she tried to talk about how “ghetto” it is.
the final straw was when she said “people need to leave, idk why you don’t.” at that point, i was done. i told her that not every place is for everyone and that she should probably move because we don’t need entitled people who don’t understand culture. wished her the best, picked up our tab and left.
never walked out on someone before but damn, some people are garbage
had me feelin like bron