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Hey guys! I got some incredible news! (No no baby yet) last I updated ya we were fumbling with the idea of adoption, which still is an option, however for my wife is a last resort, she wants to birth our kid...so here is how funny life is..
Been at my job for 12 years, my benefits don't cover ANY of the IVF costs, my prescription coverage did and we were able to save on that (close to 12k in meds) still each cycle came or to about 10k :x so as ya know we did 2 which failed so I'm about 20k deep in this for now...anywho, my hospital just merged with NYP about 2 yeas ago and this year is when our benefits changed to NYP benefits...guess what!!!!!!? NYP being a much larger institution actually has IVF coverage!!! So my 10k per cycle came down to 3k!!!! My wife broke into tears...with the idea of saving for a house and other expenses, the cost of IVF sort of took a backseat for sometime...but now that we can afford it easier we are starting our 3 round as soon as my new benefits kick in January 1st...I started this thread seems ages ago when I was naive and my heart had not been broken by disappointment yet, I thought this would be a quick journey and we would have our baby on the first shot, life has other plans and 4 years later we still fighting, I promised my wife 2018 we would have both our baby and our house...the Big Guy upstairs really cut me a break and I'm so happy....only sharing with you guys, because this is the only place I can scream it too...she wants to keep this very low key, doesn't even wanna tell her parents when we are going through the cycle...says is hard enough to dissapoint ourselves, no need to have to break bad news to family and friends...I didn't understand her when we first started this, after feeling that pain, I sure do now....anyways NT fam, you guys have all been a part of my journey and will continue to keep those of you that have kept up, up to date...
I apologize, I know some of you have PMed me and I either reply weeks later or don't reply at all, I never expect to get PMs on NT so I never even bother checking my PMs...if you do send a PM, please let me know here in a post so I can go looking for it in my inbox...much love
Been at my job for 12 years, my benefits don't cover ANY of the IVF costs, my prescription coverage did and we were able to save on that (close to 12k in meds) still each cycle came or to about 10k :x so as ya know we did 2 which failed so I'm about 20k deep in this for now...anywho, my hospital just merged with NYP about 2 yeas ago and this year is when our benefits changed to NYP benefits...guess what!!!!!!? NYP being a much larger institution actually has IVF coverage!!! So my 10k per cycle came down to 3k!!!! My wife broke into tears...with the idea of saving for a house and other expenses, the cost of IVF sort of took a backseat for sometime...but now that we can afford it easier we are starting our 3 round as soon as my new benefits kick in January 1st...I started this thread seems ages ago when I was naive and my heart had not been broken by disappointment yet, I thought this would be a quick journey and we would have our baby on the first shot, life has other plans and 4 years later we still fighting, I promised my wife 2018 we would have both our baby and our house...the Big Guy upstairs really cut me a break and I'm so happy....only sharing with you guys, because this is the only place I can scream it too...she wants to keep this very low key, doesn't even wanna tell her parents when we are going through the cycle...says is hard enough to dissapoint ourselves, no need to have to break bad news to family and friends...I didn't understand her when we first started this, after feeling that pain, I sure do now....anyways NT fam, you guys have all been a part of my journey and will continue to keep those of you that have kept up, up to date...
I apologize, I know some of you have PMed me and I either reply weeks later or don't reply at all, I never expect to get PMs on NT so I never even bother checking my PMs...if you do send a PM, please let me know here in a post so I can go looking for it in my inbox...much love