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It's come to the point where I realize I can only do so much for this person, and its time to get advice from others/possibly go to others for help in helping a very close friend out who, for the last month or two, has been abusing oxy's, vics, percs, and many other drugs (I even believe she has smoked crack/meth)
To make a very long story short, I started dating this girl a little more than a year ago. She didn't drink or smoke, she didn't really do anything. She had been sober for 2-3 years (well since the high school days when everyone would at parties) and was just a great, kind, friendly girl overall. About 6 months ago I finally got her to drink a little, I would always tease her about drinking saying one or two drinks wouldn't hurt, but I never could have imagined it'd turn into this.
She started drinking heavily a few months after she started casually drinking again, nearly every day she'd want to drink. And the mood swings started appearing, she started hanging out with other waitresses from her work who would drink (either on the job, or afterwards at the bar next door) nearly every day. This past December I realized I just wasn't happy with her anymore and brought things to an end. We would still talk nearly every day, hang out, mess around, and while I could tell she was upset I had no idea just how far she was slipping.
A couple weeks after breaking up she apparently got talked into doing some coke at the bar with a couple people/friends. Since then she has slid into the realm of oxys, vics, percs, any type of prescription drug she could get her hands on. I slowly started learning more and more from her through various hints and cries for attention/help. Shes surrounding herself with the wrong people, the type of people that hang out in our downtown area every night, drinking at the bar, doing coke at the bar, and overall just wasting away..and not just young people either, I'm talking 30+ year olds..
I'd say about 2 weeks ago I finally found out just how bad it was. At this point, I would guess that there hasn't been a day in 2012 where she's not abused pills. Also, I doubt theres a day where she hasn't drank an entire bottle of cheap vodka to her face. Shes starting to look like %$!#, even smell like %$!# (which was when I really started realizing just how bad it was, she went from being someone that would be obsessive over being clean and taking care of her body, to turning into someone that didn't shower for days on end, and started breaking out all over)...
She's come to me several times asking for help, mainly through text message at 2am when shes drunk and doped up, talking about how she just wishes she could OD one night in her sleep and end everything...I've been trying the last couple of weeks to help her, talk her through everything and explain that shes just giving in to the idea of feeling nothing. She'll tell me around 4 or 5pm every day that she feels like shes dying, and I know that's a symptom of withdrawal. I know she started popping because she was so upset (she can be a very obsessive girl which also led to the breakup) over everything that happened between us, but I can't get her to realize that it's just not that big of a deal. I've tried to explain that we're too young (she's 21) to get those illusions of grandeur and marriage/kids and all that already, but she just never got it..shes the typical girl that believes in the fairytale romance/happy ending..
Knowing her it's easy for me to see how she slipped into this..she can be a pushover at times and is just too kind to everyone/always afraid to disappoint. I need to know what the next step is though. I can't sit back with this on my conscious anymore, knowing that any day she could OD and I had the chance to do something about it...
Do I contact a rehab center?
Do I contact her mother who she lives with? Shes babied beyond belief so I'm worried nothing will be done/the mom won't even believe me
Hoping someone here has dealt with and been able to help someone close to them in a situation like this, I just want to help this girl get better...
To make a very long story short, I started dating this girl a little more than a year ago. She didn't drink or smoke, she didn't really do anything. She had been sober for 2-3 years (well since the high school days when everyone would at parties) and was just a great, kind, friendly girl overall. About 6 months ago I finally got her to drink a little, I would always tease her about drinking saying one or two drinks wouldn't hurt, but I never could have imagined it'd turn into this.
She started drinking heavily a few months after she started casually drinking again, nearly every day she'd want to drink. And the mood swings started appearing, she started hanging out with other waitresses from her work who would drink (either on the job, or afterwards at the bar next door) nearly every day. This past December I realized I just wasn't happy with her anymore and brought things to an end. We would still talk nearly every day, hang out, mess around, and while I could tell she was upset I had no idea just how far she was slipping.
A couple weeks after breaking up she apparently got talked into doing some coke at the bar with a couple people/friends. Since then she has slid into the realm of oxys, vics, percs, any type of prescription drug she could get her hands on. I slowly started learning more and more from her through various hints and cries for attention/help. Shes surrounding herself with the wrong people, the type of people that hang out in our downtown area every night, drinking at the bar, doing coke at the bar, and overall just wasting away..and not just young people either, I'm talking 30+ year olds..
I'd say about 2 weeks ago I finally found out just how bad it was. At this point, I would guess that there hasn't been a day in 2012 where she's not abused pills. Also, I doubt theres a day where she hasn't drank an entire bottle of cheap vodka to her face. Shes starting to look like %$!#, even smell like %$!# (which was when I really started realizing just how bad it was, she went from being someone that would be obsessive over being clean and taking care of her body, to turning into someone that didn't shower for days on end, and started breaking out all over)...
She's come to me several times asking for help, mainly through text message at 2am when shes drunk and doped up, talking about how she just wishes she could OD one night in her sleep and end everything...I've been trying the last couple of weeks to help her, talk her through everything and explain that shes just giving in to the idea of feeling nothing. She'll tell me around 4 or 5pm every day that she feels like shes dying, and I know that's a symptom of withdrawal. I know she started popping because she was so upset (she can be a very obsessive girl which also led to the breakup) over everything that happened between us, but I can't get her to realize that it's just not that big of a deal. I've tried to explain that we're too young (she's 21) to get those illusions of grandeur and marriage/kids and all that already, but she just never got it..shes the typical girl that believes in the fairytale romance/happy ending..
Knowing her it's easy for me to see how she slipped into this..she can be a pushover at times and is just too kind to everyone/always afraid to disappoint. I need to know what the next step is though. I can't sit back with this on my conscious anymore, knowing that any day she could OD and I had the chance to do something about it...
Do I contact a rehab center?
Do I contact her mother who she lives with? Shes babied beyond belief so I'm worried nothing will be done/the mom won't even believe me
Hoping someone here has dealt with and been able to help someone close to them in a situation like this, I just want to help this girl get better...