Generic Boy problems thread Vol. probably the first

Originally Posted by ATLien Seeko

Originally Posted by SuperAntigen

Originally Posted by whywesteppin

superA, I agree with some of what you are saying.... While simping is done out of weakness (i.e. afraid to do anything that would make the girl not like them), jerks are also doing it out of weakness (they're afraid of getting hurt after they invest anything in a female). Both are defense mechanisms.

But I still think there's a difference between being a simp and being genuinely nice to a female.
So tell me, what are these differences? I posed the same question to Dimply to hopefully she can also elaborate on that...

Because truly, the way I see it, the term "simpin'" was probably birthed in the crevices of some scorned dude's heart after some stupid confused female (the type i referenced in my OG post) turned him out. Completely manipulating and disregarding his goodwill towards her.

So here we have a man who thinking the act of chivalry and being a "good" man is dead, sees fit to classify any such act that would embody the goodwill toward a female as simple and the male executor of such goodwill, a simp'.


So if you're at the crib playin Call of Duty 4 on the PS3 and your girl or even some girl you just like says "GET UP! Were going to Red Lobster for dinner!" and you get your butt up without second thought, even though you wanted to stay at home and play COD4 all day, that's an example of being a simp.

Buying a girl flowers or candy every now and then because you feel like it is not an example of being a simp.

Bending over backwards to provide things for a woman because you're thirsty, that's being a simp.

Bending over backwards to provide things for a woman because she's your wife/fiance/long time girlfriend... That's not being a simp.

Catching on?

Guess I am a simp..that confirms it.

Next time my wife asks to talk, I'll just stone face her. I finally get it.
 
Originally Posted by TheWindScar31

Originally Posted by ATLien Seeko

Originally Posted by SuperAntigen

whywesteppin wrote:

Guess I am a simp..that confirms it.

Next time my wife asks to talk, I'll just stone face her. I finally get it.


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...and yet, the simp is the one who is happily married (I assume) while the rest of "us" so called pimps seemingly always have to console each otherin the many "I am having girl problems" threads that pop up daily on this forum...

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Originally Posted by SuperAntigen



1. So let me further ask you this. If two people are in a relationship and the male is asked by the female to do something that is polar to his immediate interest and desires, and he obliges--is he a SIMP?

2. If two people are not in a relationship, however, but the male is actively courting the female, and said female asks to be taken to Red Lobster, and the male obliges even though he is doing something else at the moment--is he also engaging in "simpism"?

3. What about a situation where you're, once again, playing COD4 and your girl/the girl you're courting texts/calls you and asks to be picked up from wherever she is at--are you a simp if you oblige, and a real G if you don't and go about your bizness?

4. Now let us reverse the roles. (This is where it gets good). If a dude tells his girl/girl he is courting to "get up" so they can go to Red Lobster and his girl/girl he is courting obliges, even though she is chillen--is she a simp? What about if she looks you dead in the eye, gives you the up and down look to reinforce that "she aint no simp", would you just go about your business like nothing just happened...


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THE WAY YOU PUT IT

MAKES ME THING

THE WORD SIMP WAS MADE BY A WOMEN

SO THEY CAN LEAST CALL OUT MALES ON SOMETHING
FOR ALL THE TIMES OF BEING CALLED A HO , & ETC

CAUSE THINK ABOUT IT

A FEMALE DREADS WHEN SOMEONE CALLS HER A #%*+, HO , AND ETC

ITS LIKE IN THE BACK OF MIND THAT ANYTHING THEY DO CAN BE LABEL AS
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SO THEY CAME UP WITH SIMP SO MEN CAN GET THEY HEADS MESSED UP IN THE LONG RUN


IM PRETTY SURE OF IT
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Hell, if being nice to a girl = bein a simp, then so be it. The way I look at it...who gives a @%+* what some otherman gotta say if you know you treatin your girl right? I can understand girls like SiMPLY not being too impressed with the guys that have to fake it til theymake it, but ain't $%%@ wrong with bein a nice guy, even if they finish last most of the time. If you "finished last place" in a certainsituation, she probably wasn't worth your time anyway.

It's already been said...it's the so-called MOB-screamin "playas" and pimps that I see on here withall these relationship problem threads all the time. So quick to objectify women, then they turn around and start cryin bout their misfortunes to facelesss/n's on a shoe messageboard.

Ok, "playa...
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The datin game is really complex nowadays, but that makes being with someone you really care for that much sweeter.The bottom line of this entire thread is to just BE YOURSELF. @%+* all that extra $%%@.
 
Originally Posted by BobbyBrownpacks

everything my man whywesteppin said is a lie. hes a stone cold pimp.
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Yessir!

I think the biggest issue here is our definition of what simping is. In the end, each person will perceive an act of kindness differently. Some will see it assimping, some will see it as trying too hard, and some will see it as being a genuinely good guy.
 
If nice = simp, regardless of being genuine or not then simps FTW.
 
Being nice does NOT = simp.



its 2009, everyone should know the definition of simp by now, this isnt any ground breaking slang term.
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Originally Posted by moundraised23

Originally Posted by IM A HELION

Originally Posted by blackmagnus514

And if that's not the most obvious rule of dating and life in general....

"Left me confused, I messed with chicks that was best when abused, Nice guys finish last with they special set of rules"....

Half the times...all that advice on how to treat women is outdated and given by people of a different generation. In 08, dating is a huge gamble as it is...the game done changed. You don't gotta be a douche all the time but you definitely can't be a simp either.
And findin that middle ground between douche and simp is one of the biggest reasons men become jaded when it comes to the females...they get frustrated, adopt the MOB slogan, and say to hell with it. IMO, that is a testament to how ridiculous the datin game is right now...*$%* definitely ain't simple no more because you got pimps and players on BOTH sides of the line of scrimmage. Lloyd dumb %$$ talkin bout the "year of the lover"...well if '08 was that year, '09 finna be the "year of the bachelor." Real talk.
take heed to these post kids
Magnus and Helion, another QFT. You guys literally took the words out of my mouth *pause* in any case. It's reasons like these that I continueto be single since its so hard to find a girl, who has a hard time seeing through these "simps" and genuine nice guys. As "un-masculine"(if such a word were to ever exist) as it sounds, hopefully '09 will have a new light opened to both men and women, as long as people continue tocommunicate properly and discuss in fine manner with dating and relationships.
 
I didn't read all this !!*+. The problem is you are around guys a lot or in this case on nt, where the majority of it is males. You need to be a girl, butyou basically became one of the guys, so you start think like them. I think your problem is you want a !!*@+%% for boyfriend like most girls or atleastwon't admit it. This guy is supposedly all over you and you don't like that. What would like then? A guy who is insensitive and doesn't pay enoughattention to you? It would be a problem then.....oh I forgot girls love drama.

Girls on NT always seem mad thirsty and in some cases more than guys. They try to act like they not like that though and smh at the thirsty dudes chasinggirls.
 
I dont think just being nice is being a simp

the problem is being overly nice to the point where you put her on a pedestal and make her more important than you
no one should be more important than yourself

a good woman would probably not allow that in the first place out of respect

but good women are rare

in conclusion the op wants a scumbag?
 
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