Originally Posted by
nawlinsjunkie
My girlfriend and I had a semi-long distance relationship. She lived in Bakersfield ( shouldve seen this as the first sign
) and I go to school in Santa Barbara, so the distance wasn't too bad. She'd always come down to SB to kick it anyways.
Things are going good, then she enrolls in nursing school and says she has less time to visit. I'm an understanding dude so I don't really mind. She calls me every night talking to me for at least an hour, talkin about how much she loves me and @#$% and how she wants the relationship to be a long term one (didn't talk about marriage or anything though so I didnt stress or anything
)
One night after telling me how much she loves me, out of @#$@$ nowhere she sends me a text the next morning saying "I think it's better if we were just friends. I love you but I just don't have the time for a relationship right now."
Naturally I got heated as @#$% and I called her back, and she ignored it twice...I tried calling her again later that night, and still no response. When I called her again the next night, some dude picks up...right then and there I knew I got played
I asked around and heard that she had been @#$@$% with her EX for the past 2 months...the same EX she came to me crying about, telling me that he basically ruined her self esteem and that she suffers from depression now...she told me she was scared of and that she wanted me to protect her from him and @#$%...dude was on some stalker @#$% and followed us wherever we went, and I almost fought dude at one point when he started to harass her right in front of me . but she told me "don't do it, you're a much better man than he is". and thats how the @#$@$ repaid me, by @#$%@% him behind my back
I didn't get over her for a long @#$ time until one day, I found out she was pregnant by dude
(I knew it wasn't mine cause when she found out, she had already been broken up with me for 5 months). Words can't express how happy I was. Not just cause I was bitter, but I was like "damn that couldve been me
"
dodged a HUGE bullet right there, cause she had always mentioned how much she wanted to have a baby by me, but I used to brush it off as a joke or some @#$%
overall though, that relationship basically destroyed my optimism for ever finding a girl. it was just one instance, and i've been played before that, but this one was the worst cause of all the emotions and time i put in for this girl. i thought that i had finally found a perfect girl, and she ends up being grimier than most
i seriously feel like ALL the good girls are taken or in some kinda situation where you can't get with her, due to her career, school, etc...