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But it is a ego thing cause a coupon doesnt change what you did... Like example my girl wanted a new phone so i got her the iphone 5, i got it thru my mom free upgrade ay a discount price... whether i paid 699 or the 299 doesnt change the gesture i did... nor what i got her. Its not like the fact that i got it discounted devalued the product, nor the setiments behind it... You saying something like ur wife wanting to go to a 5 star restuarant for yall anniversary and u get a deal makes it lets special... But to who... Are you saying she would be like or feel it isnt special because you got a deal?Or saying she would say it really isnt nice cause you got a deal on the meal? No and im sure all she cares...well id least she would only care that you was thoughtful enough that you remembered tje anniversary and that you took her to said 5 star restuarant. So if she doesnt caare and it makes her no difference then who is it less special to then?
That sir would be you. If its two ppl, and if your saying it would be less special to her.. and you arent doing it for her, then the only person left is you. Thus it makes you feel it isnt special, or feel that you made the moment lets special... thus its your deal... and ego booster, or some sort of self fullfilling props atta boy, or some i am a real man, try to maintain some image or something...
If its the thought that count how can that thought your feelings or intent be changed in reference to doing soething for someone based on how much you saved on it.
It be like if your wife said i wanted to go on a cruise and u suprised her with one on yall anniversary/her bday... How would it make it any less special if you got the tickets discounted, won them, or a friend had them and couldnt go and gace them to you? Are you saying her feelings about said trip or about you would change depending on how you got the tickets and/or how much you paid for them... Would the trip have anymore/less feelings because of it? In terms of her emotions and thoughts?
but thats what im trying to tell you, that i believe she WOULD care and i cant blame her, plenty of times where we can save together, plenty of other opportunities when we would go out to eat and i have no problems telling her to treat me even....but say on a special ocassions im i gonna try to cut corners for the sake of saving a few dollars??...NO....same goes for a first date, i mean is supposed to be special, correct?...
you are going off the grid bringing up items like cars and phones and moms gift off BF.....those things donot compare to a first date....if you are the penny pinching type, thats cool...wish i was a bit more careful with my money, but unfortunately im not, i work too hard to not enjoy my money and give those around me all that i can material and otherwise...
once again is NOT about ego, its more about how they would feel as opposed to how i would feel....because at the end of it, you paying for a girls dinner will never be something outstanding, however you pulling out a coupon may in most cases, make the other person feel like you dont think they are even worthy of you paying for a full meal.
like i said if it was about an ego boost, paying for a dinner is not the way to boost ones ego....in my book is the norm on a first date, nothing ego boosting about that.