Do you socialize with co-workers outside of work?

[eracism]

My coworkers always asked me if I wanted to hangout with them but I made so many excuses not to that they stopped asking. And now they act cold towards me at work.

Used to go to the water cooler and be like "Waddup fuzznuts" and now they're just like "Oh. Hey." and walk away.

Can't even talk about the ballgame with them anymore. They'll mumble "yeah I saw that" and then pick up the phone to call security.

I eat by myself now. Does anyone know how to regain friendship in the workplace? I feel like if I jump out and say I'm ready to hang out now! they'll just brush me off like I did to them. I hate going to work now because I have no one to chum it up with. I work intensely now and all my down time is spent alone. All my other coworkers see the disconnect I have with my old clique and think I'm the bad person. I tried to eat lunch with the fat girl from accounting and she was like "nah you weren't trying to be my friend before" and gave me that fat girl I'm eating a sandwich smile. This sucks. Is there anything I can do?

 

[703 hwy]

Don't accept their requests on social networks

 

[rillo561]

My coworkers always asked me if I wanted to hangout with them but I made so many excuses not to that they stopped asking. And now they act cold towards me at work.

Used to go to the water cooler and be like "Waddup fuzznuts" and now they're just like "Oh. Hey." and walk away.

Can't even talk about the ballgame with them anymore. They'll mumble "yeah I saw that" and then pick up the phone to call security.

I eat by myself now. Does anyone know how to regain friendship in the workplace? I feel like if I jump out and say I'm ready to hang out now! they'll just brush me off like I did to them. I hate going to work now because I have no one to chum it up with. I work intensely now and all my down time is spent alone. All my other coworkers see the disconnect I have with my old clique and think I'm the bad person. I tried to eat lunch with the fat girl from accounting and she was like "nah you weren't trying to be my friend before" and gave me that fat girl I'm eating a sandwich smile. This sucks. Is there anything I can do?

Maybe show up to one of the happy hours or something? TBH these guys sound lame as hell anyway.

 

[stihl]

Maybe show up to one of the happy hours or something? TBH these guys sound lame as hell anyway.

He was being sarcastic.

 

[grimeyy]

A lot of my coworkers became my good friends

 

[rillo561]

He was being sarcastic.

Ah, hard to tell.

 

[nazdrowie]

only one person...

im sure everybody thinks I'm the angry guy at work, and i guess I'm starting be (not that i want to be though)...hate my project and most of my immediate teammates (luckily i don't have to see them very much)...i think my frustration is starting to show though 

yikes i need new gig

 

[guzzy]

Nope.

 

[lamekilla]

Some.

 

[supermanblue79]

No

 

[diego]

There are jobs where socializing with coworkers, specifically after hours, is the best thing you can do for your career.

 

[c hanna]

at my two previous jobs I did (delivering pizza and scribing in the ER) at my current job i dont

Everyone else is 10-15+ years older than me

 

[cooldaddio]

Not outside of work. I ******** with them alot at work, I workout with some, play some sports with some, but never really hang out. Occasionally, I'll watch a game or fight with them. I just figure, 40-50 hours with anyone is enough. I don't need to spend any more than that.

 

[freeze]

I used to at other jobs, I still do to an extent, but in a more professional way. Now I'm an executive so most of my coworkers work under me. In an effort to keep that business relationship and respect level, I never get drunk with them or anything. I'm friendly with them and their families though.

 

[BukHumYai]

Nope not really, but I cop from one.

 

[freshkrn]

Yes, but didnt add them on social media platforms

 

[Nereyda Vuelve Por Dios]

I wouldnt go to war with them but to hang out after work and have drinks, Most def. Most of them are girls, nurses and ****. 

 

[Nereyda Vuelve Por Dios]

There are jobs where socializing with coworkers, specifically after hours, is the best thing you can do for your career.

Word my cousin's job have after work outings and they saw how she was with clients and got promoted within a yr which in that fields takes more than a couple. 

 

[AZwildcats]

I'm in college and most of my coworkers are frat boys, so we will go get lunch or play ball every now and then. They also invite me to the occasional party. However with all that being said, I really try to keep work separate from my personal life.

 

[wj4]

Used too, then I realized some are back stabbers and blabbermouths. Cut that off real quick.

Same story. At my first place, I worked with a homie from college. We shared an office and it was like a dorm room. It was dope. The hours were long. We just wanted experience and was going to bounce. Several months in, our manager left and the position was open. My homie got a job elsewhere. When he put in his 2 weeks, they countered by making him a manager and ultimately my boss. I wasn't mad. He was getting his money. He started messing up and knew I was looking for a new job too. He told the plant manager that and almost got me fired because he wasn't doing well as a manager and used me as the escape goat. I probably would've been fired if I didn't get a job offer elsewhere and peaced out.

Since I left that place most of my coworkers are married or older than me so I don't hang out with them.

 

[slighted]

The way I see it, you have to execute flawless PC at work.

I keep my work and personal life separate. Don't tell your co-workers anything that can be used against you.

PS - Happy hours/work retreats are fair game.

 

[mugen81]

Only 3

 

[ill steelo]

Me & a good amount of my homies got hired at the same place after graduation, so yea.

It's almost like we're still in college.

 

[blastercombo]

Yeah why not? How do you go about work and not chop it up with the people around you? That's just weird

 

[frank mucus]

Nah, not really.

My co-workers already look down on me cause I wear designer sneaks to work while they just wear nike frees, Air Maxes, roshes, or some adidas boosts.

I don't want them seeing my whip either.