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"I am aware non-black men feel the same way."
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this is why some of us are tunned out or numbed to certain things in this life, hopefully we don't pass that onto our next generation cause it can be resolved.
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I NEVER took my mom’s side all the time (single parent, never had a live-in father) Never took my pops side either. I’ve mentioned time and time again how he always was a provider and handle his financial duties. My dad definitely has sucker ways, but, I’ve always respected the fact that I’ve never seen him get violent. My mom was the aggressor EVERY time they got into it. Every… single… time. He’s been a tender “stick” his whole life. Caters to women like no other. But I’ve bore witness to my mom literally trying to throw hands with my pops and he avoided it at all costs. Tried to diffuse every situation. He’s got TONNNNNNNs of faults but both my parents do.
I’ve asked my mom, ad nauseum, “what did you see in that guy??”
But yeah, dude in that video had been putting women on a pedestal his whole life. If it took for him to get married to understand? Smh
My own mother ALWAYS told me that a lot of women aren’t s****. My mom my drilled that into my head over and over again until I got understanding
I’ve asked my mom, ad nauseum, “what did you see in that guy??”
But yeah, dude in that video had been putting women on a pedestal his whole life. If it took for him to get married to understand? Smh
My own mother ALWAYS told me that a lot of women aren’t s****. My mom my drilled that into my head over and over again until I got understanding
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We’ve got to start talking about a topic that ALLLLLLL races of women rarely if EVER have with their boys…. School them about women. These women rarely teach their sons that, some women are no good and not to be trusted.
It’s as plain as that. It’s a conversation that always gets overlooked.
It’s as plain as that. It’s a conversation that always gets overlooked.
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"So basically..we be on some selfish BS..." said no women ever.
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some women despise bringing a boy into this world, so yeah you can't trust some of them.
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I can't tell if thats a "You got jokes.." point or a "He's right!" point. He say something but I can't hear over the other guy.
Kids: "Stay out of grown folks' business."
Adults: "Keep children out of your business."
My nephew is upset with me because I keep declining his invitations to "hang out".
I've been an active uncle in his life since he was born. Everything from birthdays to basketball camps.
He hit me up, telling me about a restaurant he wants us to visit and other activities.
Mind you, I'm the one who always pays when we "hang out," but that was when he was growing up or on special occasions like birthdays, holidays, graduations, etc.
He's now in his early 20s and gainfully employed (thank the Creator) in a very nice job.
I am an introvert, and my wife and I enjoy our weekends hiking, riding bikes, camping, or just chilling after all the never-ending domestic work is done. She and I hardly ever "hang out".
I told him I don't "hang out" and shouldn't have to spend money just to see my nephew. I told him the importance of investing and tried to show him how to open a brokerage account.
He told my wife that I disrespected him, and the only reason he wanted to have "uncles day" every month is that my Mom (his Grandmother) mentioned it.
His barber and hairstylist are less than 10 minutes away from my house, and he gets a cut every two weeks, so I asked him why he doesn't stop by and visit when he's in the area.
He told me he has stuff to do and is too busy to stop by after his cut.
He also mentioned that I don't visit him at his apartment (40 minutes away), and he shouldn't be the one coming to me all the time.
Me:
We are not friends, G.
I'm your uncle.
I think he's a virgin or something because there is no way he's that mad that a grown *** man doesn't want to take him out for food and entertainment once a month 
From black man to black men - am I trippin?
I've been an active uncle in his life since he was born. Everything from birthdays to basketball camps.
He hit me up, telling me about a restaurant he wants us to visit and other activities.
Mind you, I'm the one who always pays when we "hang out," but that was when he was growing up or on special occasions like birthdays, holidays, graduations, etc.
He's now in his early 20s and gainfully employed (thank the Creator) in a very nice job.
I am an introvert, and my wife and I enjoy our weekends hiking, riding bikes, camping, or just chilling after all the never-ending domestic work is done. She and I hardly ever "hang out".
I told him I don't "hang out" and shouldn't have to spend money just to see my nephew. I told him the importance of investing and tried to show him how to open a brokerage account.
He told my wife that I disrespected him, and the only reason he wanted to have "uncles day" every month is that my Mom (his Grandmother) mentioned it.
His barber and hairstylist are less than 10 minutes away from my house, and he gets a cut every two weeks, so I asked him why he doesn't stop by and visit when he's in the area.
He told me he has stuff to do and is too busy to stop by after his cut.
He also mentioned that I don't visit him at his apartment (40 minutes away), and he shouldn't be the one coming to me all the time.
Me:
We are not friends, G.
I'm your uncle.
I think he's a virgin or something because there is no way he's that mad that a grown *** man doesn't want to take him out for food and entertainment once a month
From black man to black men - am I trippin?
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I feel like the message could've been delivered differently. I would've said, "Yea we can hang. You buying?" Now the ball is in his court. If he would've said anything other than OK, THEN hit him with all that other stuff. Give him a chance to win. I feel like at some point he should be WANTING to pay for you for once, to at least, show some life progress.
EDIT: TBH it kinda feels like you're tired of hanging out with him in general.
EDIT: TBH it kinda feels like you're tired of hanging out with him in general.
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Bruh acting way too serious and dissing his own nephew on the net
Hang out with your damn nephew. Just tell him you not paying for **** all the time. You can be an important male figure in his life and not everyone has this.
Hang out with your damn nephew. Just tell him you not paying for **** all the time. You can be an important male figure in his life and not everyone has this.
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Appreciate the alternate views, fellas.
There is almost two decades' difference between us, so it's hard for me to relate.
I never hung out with my Uncles or my Father when I was in my 20s, so this is foreign to me. They were men who were cut from a different cloth.
THIS!
As he's gotten older, he's started "Smelling his Pee".
Some of the stuff that comes out of his mouth gives me a headache, and he is VERY opinionated about EVERYTHING, so I end up just letting him talk.
He ain't trying to hear what I'm saying anyway, and I don't care enough to argue.
I'm washed up already, and it's a whole recession out here
Just couldn't understand why he got so mad. Sheesh!
There is almost two decades' difference between us, so it's hard for me to relate.
I never hung out with my Uncles or my Father when I was in my 20s, so this is foreign to me. They were men who were cut from a different cloth.
THIS!
As he's gotten older, he's started "Smelling his Pee".
Some of the stuff that comes out of his mouth gives me a headache, and he is VERY opinionated about EVERYTHING, so I end up just letting him talk.
He ain't trying to hear what I'm saying anyway, and I don't care enough to argue.
I'm washed up already, and it's a whole recession out here
Just couldn't understand why he got so mad. Sheesh!
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Where's his dad? Does he have any siblings? Was he sheltered?My nephew is upset with me because I keep declining his invitations to "hang out".
I've been an active uncle in his life since he was born. Everything from birthdays to basketball camps.
He hit me up, telling me about a restaurant he wants us to visit and other activities.
Mind you, I'm the one who always pays when we "hang out," but that was when he was growing up or on special occasions like birthdays, holidays, graduations, etc.
He's now in his early 20s and gainfully employed (thank the Creator) in a very nice job.
I am an introvert, and my wife and I enjoy our weekends hiking, riding bikes, camping, or just chilling after all the never-ending domestic work is done. She and I hardly ever "hang out".
I told him I don't "hang out" and shouldn't have to spend money just to see my nephew. I told him the importance of investing and tried to show him how to open a brokerage account.
He told my wife that I disrespected him, and the only reason he wanted to have "uncles day" every month is that my Mom (his Grandmother) mentioned it.
His barber and hairstylist are less than 10 minutes away from my house, and he gets a cut every two weeks, so I asked him why he doesn't stop by and visit when he's in the area.
He told me he has stuff to do and is too busy to stop by after his cut.
He also mentioned that I don't visit him at his apartment (40 minutes away), and he shouldn't be the one coming to me all the time.
Me:
We are not friends, G.
I'm your uncle.
I think he's a virgin or something because there is no way he's that mad that a grown *** man doesn't want to take him out for food and entertainment once a month
From black man to black men - am I trippin?
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I take it you never plan on having kids yourself because they're going to do through this period too. **** This is when he need male guidance the most. You think they're not hearing you but they are. They'll come back like, "Man UNC, you was right!"Appreciate the alternate views, fellas.
There is almost two decades' difference between us, so it's hard for me to relate.
I never hung out with my Uncles or my Father when I was in my 20s, so this is foreign to me. They were men who were cut from a different cloth.
THIS!
As he's gotten older, he's started "Smelling his Pee".
Some of the stuff that comes out of his mouth gives me a headache, and he is VERY opinionated about EVERYTHING, so I end up just letting him talk.
He ain't trying to hear what I'm saying anyway, and I don't care enough to argue.
I'm washed up already, and it's a whole recession out here
Just couldn't understand why he got so mad. Sheesh!
NOWWW we see why you were going so hard about nuclear families. You tired of playing "Dad" for your nephew.
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My nephew is upset with me because I keep declining his invitations to "hang out".
I've been an active uncle in his life since he was born. Everything from birthdays to basketball camps.
He hit me up, telling me about a restaurant he wants us to visit and other activities.
Mind you, I'm the one who always pays when we "hang out," but that was when he was growing up or on special occasions like birthdays, holidays, graduations, etc.
He's now in his early 20s and gainfully employed (thank the Creator) in a very nice job.
I am an introvert, and my wife and I enjoy our weekends hiking, riding bikes, camping, or just chilling after all the never-ending domestic work is done. She and I hardly ever "hang out".
I told him I don't "hang out" and shouldn't have to spend money just to see my nephew. I told him the importance of investing and tried to show him how to open a brokerage account.
He told my wife that I disrespected him, and the only reason he wanted to have "uncles day" every month is that my Mom (his Grandmother) mentioned it.
His barber and hairstylist are less than 10 minutes away from my house, and he gets a cut every two weeks, so I asked him why he doesn't stop by and visit when he's in the area.
He told me he has stuff to do and is too busy to stop by after his cut.
He also mentioned that I don't visit him at his apartment (40 minutes away), and he shouldn't be the one coming to me all the time.
Me:
We are not friends, G.
I'm your uncle.
I think he's a virgin or something because there is no way he's that mad that a grown *** man doesn't want to take him out for food and entertainment once a month
From black man to black men - am I trippin?
Most young people don’t understand “calling and checking up” or just saying “what’s up” every once and a while.
Some of them don’t understand the concept of “not calling just because you want something” all the time.
It’s a behavior that they usually out grow.
They just don’t know any better
I never forget my grandmother got mad at my little cousin and said “she doesn’t call and check on me”
I told her YOU are the adult. You’re the grandmother. You’re suppose to reach out to her. If she isn’t receptive, at least you can say that you made the effort and just wash your hands of the situation.
I never expect people under 25 to know these things. It really is something that has to be taught to them over time. Some come around to it, some don’t
Father is deceased.
Raised by my sister along with his older brother.
Sheltered is kinda hard to say.
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That’s blood bro you gotta be there if he slips up.
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He sounds like a younger cousin of mine, but he was an only child after his dad passed. Grew up somewhat spoiled and entitled to peoples time and attention. Me and my brother had to sit him down and explain how the world works outside of his house because it was getting annoying.
I think instead of just hoping he gets hint that you don't want to hang out and fall off, you should tell him what the nature of ya'll relationship is gonna to be going forward.
Yup.
He's on his wave and tries to go back and forth with folks.
Very argumentative.
Needs to be right about everything and takes things personally.
Heavy into the Bible and stays preaching to folks about the Lord.
I remember him calling me up to the mall to "hang out" after work one evening. Figured we'd hit up a restaurant and have dinner.
When I got there, he was handing out flyers to random folks, asking them to listen to his mixtape because he was trying to become a Christian rapper.
Had me standing out there like his hype man...getting hungrier and hungrier.
I asked him if I could have one of his flyers, and he told me he needed all of them for his "customers."
I dipped immediately & was home before he realized I was gone.
Whatever he can't or won't learn from us in the family, life will show him.
I'll be there as much as makes sense, but I ain't gonna burn my arms off trying to pull folks out of fires they had no business jumping into in the first place
He's a good kid and I love him, but our personalities don't mix very well, and that should be Ok.
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I wish I grew up with my blood uncles In Nigeria the culture dies once you leave one behind. Especially once you come to united states.
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My nephew is upset with me because I keep declining his invitations to "hang out".
I've been an active uncle in his life since he was born. Everything from birthdays to basketball camps.
He hit me up, telling me about a restaurant he wants us to visit and other activities.
Mind you, I'm the one who always pays when we "hang out," but that was when he was growing up or on special occasions like birthdays, holidays, graduations, etc.
He's now in his early 20s and gainfully employed (thank the Creator) in a very nice job.
I am an introvert, and my wife and I enjoy our weekends hiking, riding bikes, camping, or just chilling after all the never-ending domestic work is done. She and I hardly ever "hang out".
I told him I don't "hang out" and shouldn't have to spend money just to see my nephew. I told him the importance of investing and tried to show him how to open a brokerage account.
He told my wife that I disrespected him, and the only reason he wanted to have "uncles day" every month is that my Mom (his Grandmother) mentioned it.
His barber and hairstylist are less than 10 minutes away from my house, and he gets a cut every two weeks, so I asked him why he doesn't stop by and visit when he's in the area.
He told me he has stuff to do and is too busy to stop by after his cut.
He also mentioned that I don't visit him at his apartment (40 minutes away), and he shouldn't be the one coming to me all the time.
Me:
We are not friends, G.
I'm your uncle.
I think he's a virgin or something because there is no way he's that mad that a grown *** man doesn't want to take him out for food and entertainment once a month
From black man to black men - am I trippin?
nah yeen wrong, but i’d suggest actually doing something other than food & entertainment…workout, hike, hoop, a project if y’all are so inclined…but just because you have made yourself available in the past doesn’t mean it always should be on you, your suggestions on pulling up when he gets a cut or putting the onus on him at his big age sounds more than reasonable…man has to know/get an understanding at this point that y’all are grown ups with responsibilities & other wants for their free time, i’d hope y’all’s relationship has the underpinning of love such that nephew would receive what you have already relayed
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wild
very true…and not that you’re saying this but the practice/tradition of seniority would be the tradeoff, every family is different but generally age would preclude having anything really resembling ‘friendship’ with aunts/uncles like here in the states…
even with that standard being lessened/muted here i couldn’t image seriously telling any of my uncles why they don’t call me
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Plenty of free things yall can do for free as well though. I
Heavy into the Bible and stays preaching to folks about the Lord.
I remember him calling me up to the mall to "hang out" after work one evening. Figured we'd hit up a restaurant and have dinner.
When I got there, he was handing out flyers to random folks, asking them to listen to his mixtape because he was trying to become a Christian rapper.
Had me standing out there like his hype man...getting hungrier and hungrier.
I asked him if I could have one of his flyers, and he told me he needed all of them for his "customers."
I dipped immediately & was home before he realized I was gone.
