Black Culture Discussion Thread

[Present]

Sending a child to school with body odors is LITERALLY what we are told to report to CPS for them to investigate neglect.

Are yall being forreal right now?

Some things that are considered neglect are not bathing a child, not washing their laundry, not giving them emotional support or proper adult bonding, not tending to their needs, or leaving them alone. There is a long list of things that would be considered child abuse and/or neglect.

None of that is happening.

The kid is in the bathroom with the shower running, sitting on the toilet, playing Minecraft.

I ask the kid if they took a shower, and the kid lies.

When CPS finds no evidence of "neglect," then what?

Can I beat the kid now or nah?

or

Let me guess,

I need to find and pay for "counseling" to do a deep dive on why the kid is a trifling, ungrateful, selfish, stinking little liar and come up with a plan to address their "needs."

 

[maq25060]

Sending a child to school with body odors is LITERALLY what we are told to report to CPS for them to investigate neglect.

You just said you give weekly reminders to your students about washing their ***...so you must call CPS a lot.

Are yall being forreal right now?

Questions like this, with the hostile undertones, is how texted dialogue goes off the rail...then folks gotta post i come in peace in succession to keep it civil...

But I ask you the question in return...are you being for real right now? Do you truly call CPS because you were told to do so if the child has body odors? Or do you approach those situations in a different way?

 

[DCAllAfrican]

They must have been in here for our convo.

 

[DCAllAfrican]

When CPS finds no evidence of "neglect," then what?

The POINT is to prevent your child's school from SUSPECTING the child is being neglected at home.

THere is no, "And them what."

If you are fine with VOLUNTARILY sending them to school like that because, "CPS wouldn't fine any signs of neglect" then cool.

Like I said, I can't believe this is a serious convo.

 

[DCAllAfrican]

You just said you give weekly reminders to your students about washing their ***...so you must call CPS a lot.

Questions like this, with the hostile undertones, is how texted dialogue goes off the rail...then folks gotta post i come in peace in succession to keep it civil...

But I ask you the question in return...are you being for real right now? Do you truly call CPS because you were told to do so if the child has body odors? Or do you approach those situations in a different way?

I contact our social workers/guidance counselors REGULARLY because there are a handful of kids that come in funky more times than not. They would be the ones making the calls. We write the referrals.

If I have a relationship with the child where I feel they can take ME being real with them I let them know, "You are putting your parents at risk to get a phone call made on them. Wash yourself become coming back here tomorrow."

 

[maq25060]

I contact our social workers/guidance counselors REGULARLY because there are a handful of kids that come in funky more times than not. They would be the ones making the calls. We write the referrals.

If I have a relationship with the child where I feel they can take ME being real with them I let them know, "You are putting your parents at risk to get a phone call made on them. Wash yourself become coming back here tomorrow."

As a parent, I appreciate this approach. And I'll never tell someone how to do their job, but might I suggest even talking to the parents as well? Assuming you write the report before talking to them...maybe a talk with the parents can give you insight to what's going on? If the problem persists, you do what you feel is necessary of course.

 

[DCAllAfrican]

As a parent, I appreciate this approach. And I'll never tell someone how to do their job, but might I suggest even talking to the parents as well? Assuming you write the report before talking to them...maybe a talk with the parents can give you insight to what's going on? If the problem persists, you do what you feel is necessary of course.

I contact parents if I have a relationship with the family.

If I don't, I hand the situation over to the support team.

 

[Rootin4EverybodyBlack]

Can't speak for others, but when I see folks wearing or doing things I don't appreciate, I have enough common sense to think about my own thoughts.

'Why is this bothering me?"

Folks are way too quick to assume every thought they have is right just because they thought it.

The second thing I do is ask myself, "How does this impact my life?"

If I don't know them, I have zero authority over them, zero accountability for them, and they aren't bothering me, then I might need to check myself.

I am not accountable for what I have no authority over.

Bolded for emphasis.

Also, percentage wise, how many people you see that are even dressed “inappropriately” enough to be mad about? It be like 1 out of 100 people in a public setting and suddenly it’s “Black folks need to do better”, completely ignoring the other 99.

People let social media cloud their view on what’s actually common.

 

[Present]

The POINT is to prevent your child's school from SUSPECTING the child is being neglected at home.

THere is no, "And them what."

If you are fine with VOLUNTARILY sending them to school like that because, "CPS wouldn't fine any signs of neglect" then cool.

Like I said, I can't believe this is a serious convo.

Yup.

It's called consequences.

Parents tell them to bathe 1000 times, but nothing happens.

A classmate clowns them in front of everyone/posts it online.

As soon as they get home:

 

[maq25060]

Yup.

It's called consequences.

Parents tell them to bathe 1000 times, but nothing happens.

A classmate clowns them in front of everyone/posts it online.

As soon as they get home:

...like we didn't live through this as kids?

 

[DCAllAfrican]

Bolded for emphasis.

Also, percentage wise, how many people you see that are even dressed “inappropriately” enough to be mad about? It be like 1 out of 100 people in a public setting and suddenly it’s “Black folks need to do better”, completely ignoring the other 99.

People let social media cloud their view on what’s actually common.

Outside a few seconds of thinking, "What are they wearing" I generally believe folks don't give too many damns about what others are wearing.

Not to the degree this convo is suggesting.

 

[Present]

When I say WE…..I mean we as in black people, the black community, the black folks that SHOULD know better.

Oh.

Lumping everyone into a group based solely on the color of their skin?

Pretty sure that's how racism works, but I ain't gonna hold you.

 

[frshstunna]

It’s always been dirty/stinky/bad hygiene kids in school, that’s nothing new…Usually those kids turn it around due to their peers or the outside world calling them funky rather than their parents being on em

And the clothing topic comes up every now and then and it’s so superficial n low hanging fruit, it’s just mostly folks wanting to judge strangers n feel like they better

 

[DCAllAfrican]

It’s always been dirty/stinky/bad hygiene kids in school, that’s nothing new…Usually those kids turn it around due to their peers or the outside world calling them funky rather than their parents being on em

And the clothing topic comes up every now and then and it’s so superficial n low hanging fruit, it’s just mostly folks wanting to judge strangers n feel like they better

Two things can be true though.

Social pressure will/should eventually make them get in line

BUT, their parents shouldn't let them leave the house smelling foul.

It isn't an either or thing. You live in my house, you don't tell me what you aren't going to do. Especially something that will have people questioning ME while you are out in the world.

 

[deuce king]

Oh.

Lumping everyone into a group based solely on the color of their skin?

Pretty sure that's how racism works, but I ain't gonna hold you.

The TITLE of THIS THREAD is Black Culture Discussion Thread. Looks like you and anyone else in here voluntarily LUMPED themselves into a group upon entry based solely off their skin. Bless your heart though.

 

[Present]

The TITLE of THIS THREAD is Black Culture Discussion Thread. Looks like you and anyone else in here voluntarily LUMPED themselves into a group upon entry based solely off their skin. Bless your heart though.

A mask or a bonnet says more about a person's character/culture/values than "race," IMHO.

Every "race" has its "bad" and "good", subjective to the beholder.

Personally, I prefer knowing who/what I'm dealing with up front, so I'm glad folks are free to show us who they are.

You take the same dude in a shiesty mask and put him in a quarterzip - is he not the same dude?

"At some point in time, as a collective body, WE have to get back to having a set standard for ourselves and how we represent ourselves individually and as a whole."

I believe this happens naturally.

Within each "race", there are subgroups that may or may not enjoy each other's company

"We" don't associate with "them", but that doesn't necessarily make us "right" or make them "wrong".

A place for everything and everything in its place makes sense to me.

 

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[tokes99]

to these young men



not strictly pertaining to black culture but an interesting aside/tangent to the quarter zip & matcha ting

 

[finessence]

again… if you’re falling for people like she described in this video… you deserve to.

Discernment has to be at an all time low. Them cats she described look sweet as hell

 

[DCAllAfrican]

 

[DCAllAfrican]

 

[DCAllAfrican]

 

[TSCQ]

very interesting approach, dug a little deeper and found the program is funded by George Soros.

 

[DCAllAfrican]

My grandmother died in 94, there are people I have literally not seen/talked to since then. I know they are alive.

 

[finessence]

My grandmother died in 94, there are people I have literally not seen/talked to since then. I know they are alive.

Depends on what type of grandmother she was…

Sometimes it’s the grandfather