biggest reality check life gave you.

People change

The most selfless people can end up being the most selfish

You can have similar interests and get along with someone, but that doesn't mean you can truly connect with them on a deeper level

Keep like-minded people close to you, there are fewer of them out there than you might think

Just because you're a good person doesn't mean things will work out for you

People will do stupid things that will impact your life and it's up to you to minimize the amount and deal with them

The only thing you can trust is your gut
 
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Was chilling with my boy at his girl crib playing games and dude told me I am living like im still in college, partying and working part time. I need to grab life by the balls. Got back in school and this will be my last semester of undergrad
 
Thank you guys for the Welcome Home replies.  A lot of my true friends and family stuck by me throughout the incarceration, which helped a ton.  I was raised in an upper middle class family, hence why it was such a reality check for me.  I was not raised to be able to cope with that whole situation, but I kept my head down and did my time.  Got myself my Journeyman postion back in the Union and start later this month.  Its just one step at a time, and yes I have stories, but it's just memories I'm  not ready to re-visit.  I been a member here since 2001, lost my OG name in the switch, first time logging in after 3 years last week was probably the most familiar thing I have experienced yet.  Missed this place 
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Dloy19 said:
Thank you guys for the Welcome Home replies.  A lot of my true friends and family stuck by me throughout the incarceration, which helped a ton.  I was raised in an upper middle class family, hence why it was such a reality check for me.  I was not raised to be able to cope with that whole situation, but I kept my head down and did my time.  Got myself my Journeyman postion back in the Union and start later this month.  Its just one step at a time, and yes I have stories, but it's just memories I'm  not ready to re-visit.  I been a member here since 2001, lost my OG name in the switch, first time logging in after 3 years last week was probably the most familiar thing I have experienced yet.  Missed this place :hat
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Congrats fam :hat

What union if you don't mind me asking?

I'm a member of the IBEW.
 
Back in 2011 I hadn't bought any Jordans since like 2006 so the most I had ever paid for J's was like $130. I was kind of reluctant to pay $160, but the white/cement 4's are my holy grail J's. So, I strolled up to the mall at 10:15 (opens at 10am) and saw a sign on the door that said "Line for the Jordan 4 release had to line up on the other side of the mall at a different entrance. Wtf? I walk in and see about 20-30 people walking toward me to exit. Majority of them had sneaker bags and the rest looked upset. I went to all 11 sneaker stores in the mall and they all said they were sold out. Wtf? I then go to google and literally call every sneaker store in the tri-state area and everyone one of them is sold out. Wtf? I then check ebay and see nothing cheaper than $260 shipped. Its like 10:40 at this point. I just sat in the car in the parking lot and had the realization that I would not be getting my holy grails that day and the sneaker game had changed forever...:{
 
-when I was put on academic probation in college, 2 steps away from being dismissed. Realized how much I screwed up, reorganized myself, learned to focus and got some discipline, graduated a year later.

-when I got dumped in my first relationship, after being pretty closed off emotionally in my younger years. didnt go back into full on robot mode, learned how to be more comfortable opening up to people. but still on guard, always.
 
I think people are confused about this.  This isn't a thread about 'mistakes' or 'short falls'.  This is a thread about 'living' in la-la land and seeing it come to a halt.  A reality check is something you go through that makes you realize what you were previously doing can no longer work in the 'real world'.  A break up being a reality check?  Not really.
 
I don't think I've ever had one reality check...just a slow continuous sad progression that the reality is that I'm not in 6th grade anymore and don't have an upcoming summer to just play hoops, drink slurpees, eat pizza and think about girls. For the longest time (and I still do a little bit) I have this slight hope/feeling that life will revert back to that. That small hope dies a little more each year. It's nostalgic beer goggles - but that is the last summer of innocent fun I had.
 
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I think people are confused about this.  This isn't a thread about 'mistakes' or 'short falls'.  This is a thread about 'living' in la-la land and seeing it come to a halt.  A reality check is something you go through that makes you realize what you were previously doing can no longer work in the 'real world'.  A break up being a reality check?  Not really.
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This is the thread NT deserves, but not the one it needs right now.
 
Pops dying when I was 13. Deepest pain I have ever felt.I knew I would never be the same from that point.

Mom remarried and step-pops took care of me like he knew me my whole life. I call him Dad and he calls me son.

When I asked my Mom for money when my wife and I were struggling and she said this will be the last time but it's time for you to turn into a man and take care of your wife. It cut so deep hearing that from my mom. This motivated me into finding a job that pays double and half of what I was making beforehand.


My parents are awesome.
 
I never needed him.
You never really know someone.
I can't live life by a timeline.
 
2 years ago: Got my girl preggo and she wanted to keep it. I wasn't trying to be a **** by not wanting to keep it, I just felt I wasn't ready and she wasn't the one yet. Biggest reality check ever. You have to suck it up and get your **** together quick on a short notice. Now that I look back at it, I couldn't live without my lil girl. She is everything to me now.
 
2011: I saved up 13.5K and bought a beautiful 350z fully loaded with burnt orange seats 
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. Crashed it and rolled (flipped) over 4 times on the expressway. I saw my whole life flash past me. I came out without a scratch and realized it could have cost me my life for being dumb.
 
Biggest reality check I had is "SAVE/SPEND YOUR MONEY WISELY"

I've been at the bottom. Luckily I haven't been homeless, but I've been to the point hate all my bank accounts have been on 0 on Monday, and I don't get paid til Friday, but I need to find a way to pay for gas to get back and forth from work and eat. I had to overdraft money out of my account and make it last. It may not be a big deal to some of y'all, but that woke me up. I made sure to make sure that my necessities were taken care of first before I splurge on some foolishness
 
The day i had $0 in my bank account, no gas, and a maxed out credit card. I had just got a new job but didnt get my first check yet.

No way to make it to work or school.

I had to ask every member of the fam for money that day(before that day i havent asked anybody for money for years). Cried immediately after, i never cry about anything but the tears came running.

Had to be the absolute lowest point of my life
 
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The day i had $0 in my bank account, no gas, and a maxed out credit card. I had just got a new job but didnt get my first check yet.

No way to make it to work or school.

I had to ask every member of the fam for money that day(before that day i havent asked anybody for money for years). Cried immediately after, i never cry about anything but the tears came running.

Had to be the absolute lowest point of my life
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I hope you checked your ego after the fact.
 
How'd you guys allow your money to get to $0. Serious question. I always wonder that. How does one do such a thing? Bad investments/business decisions? Death in the family? Health emergencies and no insurance? Victims of ponzi schemes? That's really the only acceptable reasoning in going completely broke.
 
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How'd you guys allow your money to get to $0. Serious question. I always wonder that. How does one do such a thing? Bad investments/business decisions? That's really the only acceptable reasoning in those situations.
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Females :lol, trying to flex on too many ****

Seriously though, just living beyond your means, and being young... I was in college during that time. Let's say I had $1000 in the bank.. Rent is $600, liquor, gas, partying...just bad decisions man.

I thank God that I went through that while I was still a "kid". I would hate to go through it as an adult. It would be 10x worse
 
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Was lurking here. Guess I'll  contribute.

I just changed my phone number. I grew up with a verbally and physically abusive parent. Was told since I can remember that I would never amount to anything. I went to foster care , slept on people's couches, ended up in a few dangerous positions because my mom got a new boyfriend or boyfriends. When they said they couldn't be with her because of her children, she believed them. These men were on drugs and/ or married. The worst moment , being 14 years old, and having your own mother square up on you like you're a woman in the streets.

Fast forward. Paid for school out of my own pocket with no help from her. Moved as far as humanly possible from my family  for a few years.

Ended up going taking a trip back home, got cursed out the same week I arrived after never having anyone call me out my name in years.  This after telling my mom to stop smoking around my baby nephew. I saw she was the same person she'd always been. My number's changed and from now on, I'll have nothing to do with her.

Reality check. As much as you hate to give up on people , you got to in order to preserve yourself. You can give too many chances.
 
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