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You emailed an apology saying YOU would give THEM a second chance? Lol you be taking L's on L's on L's
Am I in the wrong? Upset g/fs family on Christmas....
night marcher01
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There was more to it than that... wasn't gonna post the whole thing on NT
Trust me, it was a very heart felt apology.
Heart felt apology letters only take 5 minutes to write?
You the man OP!
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It's not even that, it's the fact that you're saying you would give them another chance in an apology. They obviously feel like they did nothing wrong, so they're gonna read that **** thinking "the nerve of this mother..." I'm on your side, but I would've taken several other routes instead of going off on her... in her own houseThere was more to it than that... wasn't gonna post the whole thing on NT
Trust me, it was a very heart felt apology.
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Because the whole relationship it was always an issue because I didn't want to give her mom a chance... because of the way her mom treats her daughter.
She told me multiple times her mom was a horrible mother growing up, how she still is, matter a fact how her whole family treats her is awful. Yet she still stook by them.
End of the day, she's to weak to stand up to her mom, and accommodates her every need....
Yeah, her fam aint ish..... but the connection I had with her was >>> anything I had before, so I guess that's really why I'd say I'd give them another chance. But at this point I'm seriously offended that she never had my back when she said she would, and then turned it to be all my fault when her family lashed out at me...
So much disrespect by her and her family.
She told me multiple times her mom was a horrible mother growing up, how she still is, matter a fact how her whole family treats her is awful. Yet she still stook by them.
End of the day, she's to weak to stand up to her mom, and accommodates her every need....
Yeah, her fam aint ish..... but the connection I had with her was >>> anything I had before, so I guess that's really why I'd say I'd give them another chance. But at this point I'm seriously offended that she never had my back when she said she would, and then turned it to be all my fault when her family lashed out at me...
So much disrespect by her and her family.
gatzbygordon
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people gave you great advice and you still did the complete opposite
and you still didnt mention that she didnt stand up for you...
and you still didnt mention that she didnt stand up for you...
meek meals
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The only mistake you've made is choosing email out of all the ways you could contact her
It ain't 2004 b.
But in all seriousness, I don't check my e-mail everyday, only when I'm expecting something or need a password reset or something, what if she doesn't check her e-mail regularly and you're thinking she's blowing you off . . .
But now you can't send her a text because if she DOES check her e-mail and you send her a text or something, she's gonna assume you're thirsty and think she has you in her hands
Quite the dilemma you have, OP
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meek meals
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Yeah, it's barely been a full 24 hours since the incident . . . she definitely would have hit you up on her own by Saturday . . .
EDIT: Was you really expecting her to cuss out her mom over a movie . . . She prolly got mad at you for taking the shots at her sister, but moreso causing a scene and probably ruining Christmas in that house . . . Did you think about the hell your girl might have gotten from her mom/family because of what you did?
"This is the type of man you bring me"
I guarantee your mom told her something to that effect . . . it's less of a situation of her "having your back", but moreso creating as little conflict as possible . . . dudes so scared of being "beta" or feeling slighted these days
Ya shoulda just chilled and said "We have a movie to catch, I really hope to see you some other time." and dipped with nothing more said. She might have felt left short, but she definitely would not have felt disrespected as she and her family does now
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Alright, well I'm not saying another thing to her. We'll see if she talks to me again. I really feel she hates me and wants nothing to do with me at this point.
Sidenote tho, my superviser at work said when she hits me back up I should hit it one last time, and as soon as I'm done, tell her I never want to see her again
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It's not even that, it's the fact that you're saying you would give them another chance in an apology. They obviously feel like they did nothing wrong, so they're gonna read that **** thinking "the nerve of this mother..." I'm on your side, but I would've taken several other routes instead of going off on her... in her own house
Post to username ratio seems legit.
Btw OP dot stress the fact that she ignored your apology, you did the right thing, ball is in her court, she chose to ignore you, then her loss...keep it moving, learn to practice self control in order to avoid this happening again....you'll be ok and find another girl, a better one in no time.
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I don't deal with females who have family problems....**** that...
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Seems like the perfect thread to blow steam off in... my girl's ***** of a cousin is so annoying. Chick hasn't liked me from day one. I believe its due to her inability find a good man. Not saying I'm god's gift to women, but this chick act like I don't take care of my family (including a child that's not my seed), and try to do right. I've had a couple stumbles, but me and my girl in this marathon for the long haul. Funny thing is her entire family welcomes me and is cool with me for the most part...
End rant. Thanks for your time
End rant. Thanks for your time
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does the dude at least pay child support?
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nah... dude's a loser but that's another story for another day
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Raises hands to the sky "Amen".
I don't get why you guys feel this urge to try and stick it out with these women with all these issues? Step your selection game up. Looks, butt. breast, and bedroom skills aren't the only thing to look for. It's a vicous cycle. For the most part, the family is usual a strong indication of what you are in for. Sorry to say this, but if her sister is messed up, he mom is messed, her aunt is messed up, he cousins are messed up...get the picture, see the trend!!!
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When she said her peace you should have left it at that.
It isn't about being the man or anything, but more of a self-control issue.
You have to let her open the doors to communication. Patience is a difficult lesson to learn, and it doesn't come all at once, maybe this was needed.
If I'm to be honest, I think we all can work on self-improvement. There are telltale signs that we must be able to pick up on that foretell how a relationship may end up. The biggest sign that you completely missed was how she feels about her mother and how she responds to her criticism. Mothers are a huge influence on their daughters lives and more often than not are representations of how their daughters will turn out. It may have been best to jump ship when you got wind her mother was a ***** and that your ex didn't know how to stand up to her. Three months isn't that long of a time, and it definitely isn't a long enough time to earn the right to try and change someone. It would have hurt but the cut wouldn't have been that deep than if this happened say 9 months from now. Also, it would have been your decision and not hers.
Try and read the writing on the wall better in the future.
It isn't about being the man or anything, but more of a self-control issue.
You have to let her open the doors to communication. Patience is a difficult lesson to learn, and it doesn't come all at once, maybe this was needed.
If I'm to be honest, I think we all can work on self-improvement. There are telltale signs that we must be able to pick up on that foretell how a relationship may end up. The biggest sign that you completely missed was how she feels about her mother and how she responds to her criticism. Mothers are a huge influence on their daughters lives and more often than not are representations of how their daughters will turn out. It may have been best to jump ship when you got wind her mother was a ***** and that your ex didn't know how to stand up to her. Three months isn't that long of a time, and it definitely isn't a long enough time to earn the right to try and change someone. It would have hurt but the cut wouldn't have been that deep than if this happened say 9 months from now. Also, it would have been your decision and not hers.
Try and read the writing on the wall better in the future.
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maybe she hasn't seen the email. send her at least 5 more, then she'll know you're serious. that'll get her on your side!I emailed her apologizing, basically saying that I was wrong and handled it the wrong way. I told her i'd be more than happy to apologize to her family face to face. I'd give them another chance. And much more... and she can't even respond to say thanks for the apology....
Unbelievable.....
I can't believe 5 minutes ruined what we had going on...
meek meals
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maybe she hasn't seen the email. send her at least 5 more, then she'll know you're serious. that'll get her on your side!I emailed her apologizing, basically saying that I was wrong and handled it the wrong way. I told her i'd be more than happy to apologize to her family face to face. I'd give them another chance. And much more... and she can't even respond to say thanks for the apology....
Unbelievable.....
I can't believe 5 minutes ruined what we had going on...
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send her a few more emails with PLZ RESPONDI emailed her apologizing, basically saying that I was wrong and handled it the wrong way. I told her i'd be more than happy to apologize to her family face to face. I'd give them another chance. And much more... and she can't even respond to say thanks for the apology....
Unbelievable.....
I can't believe 5 minutes ruined what we had going on...
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Honestly, the route you took is the reason why it's your fault. You can't expect them to be quiet while someone is going off on their mom. I'm sure she took their side because they're her family and you're not. It's easier for her to lose you than her mom and sister, who she still loves regardless of how they treat her. I can't tell you how many girls I know that would disown their cousins, even sisters, one day and talk about how they can't imagine life without them the next day. I'm sure she'll hit you back once it blows over, in a week or so. Your choice whether you want to deal with it or not after that.Because the whole relationship it was always an issue because I didn't want to give her mom a chance... because of the way her mom treats her daughter.
She told me multiple times her mom was a horrible mother growing up, how she still is, matter a fact how her whole family treats her is awful. Yet she still stook by them.
End of the day, she's to weak to stand up to her mom, and accommodates her every need....
Yeah, her fam aint ish..... but the connection I had with her was >>> anything I had before, so I guess that's really why I'd say I'd give them another chance. But at this point I'm seriously offended that she never had my back when she said she would, and then turned it to be all my fault when her family lashed out at me...
So much disrespect by her and her family.
Side note: I could've forgiven the driveway incident if you had this argument on video. It just seems like the perfect example of "how keepin' it real goes wrong."
I'm not seeing how my post exemplifies a degenerate. Care to explain?...Post to username ratio seems legit.It's not even that, it's the fact that you're saying you would give them another chance in an apology. They obviously feel like they did nothing wrong, so they're gonna read that **** thinking "the nerve of this mother..." I'm on your side, but I would've taken several other routes instead of going off on her... in her own house.
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Well, I wouldn't have actually said that to her
...but no, you weren't in the wrong, since you were only speaking the truth.
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Dajon Dierce? 
yooo im dying
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"I'd give them another chance"
Loving how dense op is. How he doesn't think it's hist fault for the way everything turned out. Oh god 9/10 will rage again
Loving how dense op is. How he doesn't think it's hist fault for the way everything turned out. Oh god 9/10 will rage again
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Right man..........
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I emailed her apologizing, basically saying that I was wrong and handled it the wrong way. I told her i'd be more than happy to apologize to her family face to face. I'd give them another chance. And much more... and she can't even respond to say thanks for the apology....
Unbelievable.....
I can't believe 5 minutes ruined what we had going on...
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What makes you think you even have a chance? You said your peace, now accept the consequences like a man. Apologizing for what you believe in is true and completely disregarding what you said just for another chance with a female with some family issues is not a wise choice. She obviously values her family more than you (fact) or she would have had your back jack. No matter what you do from now on with that girl and her family you will always be considered a pushover and completely disregard your own self-worth for a girl you have only known for 3 months. Dude your 25 years old, you should no better, 3 months is not a long time to get to know someone. Looks like you invested a lot in this relationship and caught feelings way too soon. Stop acting like a female and take 2 L's like a man and move on with your own damb life and learn from this mistake.
Basically what you did man:
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Let's close this thread before OP does the opposite of what is recommended.
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