Why do women with kids get so angry when a man “reject's” them relationship wise for having kids?

[fdub]

I was just curious as to why. I had women in recent years “cut me off” completely simply because I didn’t want to have a committed relationship with them because they have kids from previous failed relationships. Why is that the case, if anyone knows, or has an idea? I’m very curious on people’s thoughts.

 

[andretti]

Could be a lot of reasons. Did you communicate that early on when you met her?

 

[wayniac211]

women will put you b4 their kids. If she dosent then she don't really f with u like that

 

[dblplay1212]

women will put you b4 their kids. If she dosent then she don't really f with u like that

What? If she puts some dude she's dating before her kids, she's a terrible mother. If you expect her to do that, you're a terrible man.

 

[Comparison Ford]

What? If she puts some dude she's dating before her kids, she's a terrible mother. If you expect her to do that, you're a terrible man.

Exactly my thoughts.

If I was dating a woman with kids and she made it clear that she prioritized me over her children I’d most likely up and leave based off of that alone. MASSIVE red flag.

 

[wayniac211]

What? If she puts some dude she's dating before her kids, she's a terrible mother. If you expect her to do that, you're a terrible man.

women will put you first if your WORTH it. if I'm helping you raise your kiddo and giving you my all then you better put some respect on mines

 

[Comparison Ford]

Part of “giving your all” is understanding where you stand on the totem pole and making the necessary concessions in the relationship.

 

[fdub]

Could be a lot of reasons. Did you communicate that early on when you met her?

Yep!

 

[wayniac211]

Part of “giving your all” is understanding where you stand on the totem pole and making the necessary concessions in the relationship.

I am the top of the pyramid pleighboi .. been married a long time with kids and happy asf

OP is questioning why single mothers cut him off. He's being honest saying he's not trying to commit which is honorable but in reality she dosent think he's worth being a fwb

 

[Comparison Ford]

I am the top of the pyramid pleighboi .. been married a long time with kids and happy asf

Dawg we’re talking about the beginning of a relationship.

Stay on the bus.

 

[Bronson]

Exactly my thoughts.

If I was dating a woman with kids and she made it clear that she prioritized me over her children I’d most likely up and leave based off of that alone. MASSIVE red flag.

This is great to hear.

I know you enjoy having your needs catered to.

But since you don’t want to be put first it says something good

 

[dblplay1212]

women will put you first if your WORTH it. if I'm helping you raise your kiddo and giving you my all then you better put some respect on mines

You're a weirdo. No person is worth more than your kids. Hell I'm married and we both put our kids over each other. That's my kids man. Nothing comes before that. And if you expect to come before someone's kids, you have issues.

 

[wayniac211]

Dawg we’re talking about the beginning of a relationship.

Stay on the bus.

so what is your point? You come around for lulz. No sense just useless gibberish

 

[Comparison Ford]

so what is your point? You come around for lulz. No sense just useless gibberish

Dawg it’s not my fault you say such stupid things.

 

[wayniac211]

You're a weirdo. No person is worth more than your kids. Hell I'm married and we both put our kids over each other. That's my kids man. Nothing comes before that. And if you expect to come before someone's kids, you have issues.

no need for name calling. Get better.
Been married almost 25 yrs and after your elder ones leave, you and your partner are going to be tested. I always thought I stayed for the kids but in reality she was my first love

 

[wayniac211]

Dawg it’s not my fault you say such stupid things.

Some times stupid things come from ridiculous experiences. But it's reality

 

[dblplay1212]

no need for name calling. Get better.
Been married almost 25 yrs and after your elder ones leave, you and your partner are going to be tested. I always thought I stayed for the kids but in reality she was my first love

I love my wife dearly but our lives are built around our kid, as it should be.

But we're not talking about marriages. We're talking about single women that are dating men. They should absolutely put their kids first, and if the man's ego can't deal with that, that's on him.

 

[Comparison Ford]

Some times stupid things come from ridiculous experiences. But it's reality

Like that time you drove your rocket car at an average speed of 150mph from SF to LA?

 

[wayniac211]

Like that time you drove your rocket car at an average speed of 150mph from SF to LA?

get off my D and get better

 

[finessence]

Who cares if they get angry?

 

[wayniac211]

man's ego can't deal with that, that's on him.

agreed

 

[finessence]

You're a weirdo. No person is worth more than your kids. Hell I'm married and we both put our kids over each other. That's my kids man. Nothing comes before that. And if you expect to come before someone's kids, you have issues.

Exactly. Them kids gone take care of you when you get older. That GF/wife or BF/husband can’t or won’t when y’all both are old.

My pops puts my stepmom above his kids. He damn sure won’t be getting taken care of by me when he gets old. I will be taking care of my mom though

He better pray that my siblings take care of him

My grandmother put men above her kids. Now she’s 74, none of her ex-dudes are around. Her ex husband doesn’t do for her.

The ones taking care of her? Her kids and grandkids…. Those men been hauled ***

 

[AIR J XIII]

 

[TURBO UNO]

What? If she puts some dude she's dating before her kids, she's a terrible mother. If you expect her to do that, you're a terrible man.

Ahhh! You just described my sister. She’s been whoring around with a drug dealer who has 5 baby mamas in different states. Uses her apartment to package drugs, and even takes her on trips out of state likely to transport. She buys him expensive clothes & shoes too. She pushes her kids to the side and spends days at a time without coming home.....the guy isn’t even her boyfriend and yet she prioritize him over her kids. Now she wonders why they don’t like her, don’t respect her and don’t want to be near her when that guy leaves to the other states to check on his other baby mamas for the next few months. Talkin’ about “my kids don’t like me because of what you tell them about me”......they’re 15 and 17 and it’s what they see. How embarrassing

 

[3900stabler]

Some of y'all in here naive if you think your children will take care of you like you think as you get older. They gonna throw your rear end in a nursing and take out a reverse mortgage on your house and sign the docs as your POA and come see you once or twice a month if that. I worked in the reverse mortgage industry for 7 seven years. You won't believe some of the stories I have heard.

Your children may love you but don't think they about to put they life on hold for you.

I got a cousin who's mom passed a few years ago. His mom is my older cousin. To this day she doesn't have a headstone at her burial sight. We, as a family can't even get her a headstone without his consent because he next of kin.

It's heartbreaking. His momma would watch his kids and even put his son cellphone line on her plan. Guess how my cousin repaid his deceased mom? By driving all the gas out of her truck a day after she passed away. He also tried to break into her condo to steal some of her jewelry. He wasn't a crackhead. Just ungrateful and money hungry.

You just never know how people gonna act when they get a few dollars for life insurance.

$2500 almost broke up our entire family when my grandmother passed away. She left one of her kids that amount and some of the others got nothing.

As long as there aren't any allegations for elder abuse your kids can pretty do what they want with as long as they legal standing to do so.

Also, for some of y'all that got kids that don't like each. Have fun with your kids being in court contesting if the POA or Personal Rep docs are valid because they aren't on speaking terms.

I could go on but you get my point.