TAY: thread about yambs...

[usabasketball08]

Took one of my closest homegirls out to dinner tonight..I paid.

After the check comes, I look at her waiting for her to whip some cash out and pay (it was a joke, i planned on paying the whole time.)

I eventually pull my card out.

She jokingly says, "Oh, so you think because you're paying you're getting some *** now?"

I responded with "I mean if you offer then..."

She says, "Mmmhmm we'll see."

I drop her off at her apartment, she invites me in but I respectfully decline and go home.

This caught me completely off guard. I've known her for about 5 years now, never has sex between us come up. In a serious or non-serious way. Not trying to cross that line with her, she plays her role well. Real cool chick.

Any of y'all been in the same situation?

 

[Canadian Destroyer]

Took one of my closest homegirls out to dinner tonight..I paid.

After the check comes, I look at her waiting for her to whip some cash out and pay (it was a joke, i planned on paying the whole time.)

I eventually pull my card out.

She jokingly says, "Oh, so you think because you're paying you're getting some *** now?"

I responded with "I mean if you offer then..."

She says, "Mmmhmm we'll see."

I drop her off at her apartment, she invites me in but I respectfully decline and go home.

This caught me completely off guard. I've known her for about 5 years now, never has sex between us come up. In a serious or non-serious way. Not trying to cross that line with her, she plays her role well. Real cool chick.

Any of y'all been in the same situation?

It's strange the way she just came out of nowhere with that.
I would've still gone in just to test the waters and see how far she's willing to go

 

[usabasketball08]

Women are fickle as hell.

And i've also learned..women will do/say some strange things when horny..

In the past, if we've went out to chill or anything, she's always stressed how dumb I am when it comes to catching hints from other chicks.

Originally Posted by keeL252

The Gram is a trap. 70% of women up there look smashable and flat out beautiful. And everybody living that rap video life. All so fake. I'm bout to be done with that crap.

It seems like every other chick on instagram now is a wannabe video vixen.

 

[JL415]

Took one of my closest homegirls out to dinner tonight..I paid.

After the check comes, I look at her waiting for her to whip some cash out and pay (it was a joke, i planned on paying the whole time.)

I eventually pull my card out.

She jokingly says, "Oh, so you think because you're paying you're getting some *** now?"

I responded with "I mean if you offer then..."

She says, "Mmmhmm we'll see."

I drop her off at her apartment, she invites me in but I respectfully decline and go home.

This caught me completely off guard. I've known her for about 5 years now, never has sex between us come up. In a serious or non-serious way. Not trying to cross that line with her, she plays her role well. Real cool chick.

Any of y'all been in the same situation?

smash.

 

[mugen81]

Took one of my closest homegirls out to dinner tonight..I paid.

After the check comes, I look at her waiting for her to whip some cash out and pay (it was a joke, i planned on paying the whole time.)

I eventually pull my card out.

She jokingly says, "Oh, so you think because you're paying you're getting some *** now?"

I responded with "I mean if you offer then..."

She says, "Mmmhmm we'll see."

I drop her off at her apartment, she invites me in but I respectfully decline and go home.

This caught me completely off guard. I've known her for about 5 years now, never has sex between us come up. In a serious or non-serious way. Not trying to cross that line with her, she plays her role well. Real cool chick.

Any of y'all been in the same situation?

Even though in your mind you did the right thing, I guarantee she has already had a convo/in a convo right now about you with one of her homegirls. You just opened Pandora's Box and UENO... The conversation will definately come up next time she sees you and it will either go two ways
1) She will be slick and probably fire shots until you get tired and address the situation
2) She will keep it 100 and ask" What are we/Where is this going??"
Now it's up to you to weigh your options out and be truthful, I had two similar situations with "female friends" and both them ***** crashed and burned, smh... Not saying this will happen in your case, some girls deal with with the truth about relationships better then others but at the end of the day she wasnt just saying this because she was "horny"..
This all goes back to men and women truly can't be friends, I bet she has played this scenerio in her head more the you even know....
Tackle it head on or just play aloof
I do commend TAY FAM that can have true friendships with women though, just not for me like I have said multiple times lol
Edit: Also this was your first date and ueno, lol..
Any girl that really is the homie, will break their neck to go dutch on a check or at least attempt to pay for their portion before you say something... Just my personally experience

 

[boo700gs]

I'm 26 shes 27.  So I've been trying to add my ex to the list of chicks I can regularly smash. Little history:  Her dad was recently diagnosed with cancer and she reached out after 2 months no contact after the break up to yell at me for not being there for her (this was before I knew the backstory).  2 weeks later I ask her for dinner and she agrees we meet up, she tells me about her dad, and I bring her back and smash.  Truth is I love her.  

But she's not compliant.  I invite her back to my new place yesterday on some i got you something tip and gave her a box of her favorite chocolates ($6).  Was thirsty as hell after no fap november and was making out and grabbing *** but she wouldn't go any further and started bringing up our old business talking bout how she don't see us ending up together.  I told her I completely agree but that she knows the chemistry is undeniable.  She says I'm trouble and she can't deny the attraction but she can't do this because she doesn't want to sneak around (her parents hate me and are on some my daughter is a V tip).  

 

[tdogg2k]

Took one of my closest homegirls out to dinner tonight..I paid.

After the check comes, I look at her waiting for her to whip some cash out and pay (it was a joke, i planned on paying the whole time.)

I eventually pull my card out.

She jokingly says, "Oh, so you think because you're paying you're getting some *** now?"

I responded with "I mean if you offer then..."

She says, "Mmmhmm we'll see."

I drop her off at her apartment, she invites me in but I respectfully decline and go home.

This caught me completely off guard. I've known her for about 5 years now, never has sex between us come up. In a serious or non-serious way. Not trying to cross that line with her, she plays her role well. Real cool chick.

Any of y'all been in the same situation?

as mugen said the one of 2 will probably happen.
but did yall drink a little or was she on her period.. that can always make chicks a bit more horny especially if there has been a bit of feelings there.

I'm 26 shes 27.  So I've been trying to add my ex to the list of chicks I can regularly smash. Little history:  Her dad was recently diagnosed with cancer and she reached out after 2 months no contact after the break up to yell at me for not being there for her (this was before I knew the backstory).  2 weeks later I ask her for dinner and she agrees we meet up, she tells me about her dad, and I bring her back and smash.  Truth is I love her.  

But she's not compliant.  I invite her back to my new place yesterday on some i got you something tip and gave her a box of her favorite chocolates ($6).  Was thirsty as hell after no fap november and was making out and grabbing *** but she wouldn't go any further and started bringing up our old business talking bout how she don't see us ending up together.  I told her I completely agree but that she knows the chemistry is undeniable.  She says I'm trouble and she can't deny the attraction but she can't do this because she doesn't want to sneak around (her parents hate me and are on some my daughter is a V tip).  

That was her nice way of turning you down. a lot of girls don't like to be really direct. so saying some things are necessary for them .

 

[mugen81]

I'm 26 shes 27.  So I've been trying to add my ex to the list of chicks I can regularly smash. Little history:  Her dad was recently diagnosed with cancer and she reached out after 2 months no contact after the break up to yell at me for not being there for her (this was before I knew the backstory).  2 weeks later I ask her for dinner and she agrees we meet up, she tells me about her dad, and I bring her back and smash.  Truth is I love her.  

But she's not compliant.  I invite her back to my new place yesterday on some i got you something tip and gave her a box of her favorite chocolates ($6).  Was thirsty as hell after no fap november and was making out and grabbing *** but she wouldn't go any further and started bringing up our old business talking bout how she don't see us ending up together.  I told her I completely agree but that she knows the chemistry is undeniable.  She says I'm trouble and she can't deny the attraction but she can't do this because she doesn't want to sneak around (her parents hate me and are on some my daughter is a V tip).  

First off you two are too damn old to be playing this game breh..
This is what people do when they are 18-24, that break up to make up type stuff...
I always feel if you split or take a break, leave that stuff be and get your mind right, take care of business at home and maybe in the future you two can rekindle the chemistry when both have different prospectives in life..
I will never understand why men and women want to hold on to each other but at the same time don't want to deal with the emotions of actually smashing somebody you have feelings for. That stuff never ends well, plus if her parents are still in her business at this age, something truly is wrong. The only thing that should matter in relationships is what you two feel and outside influences come second. That's just how the devil creeps in when others opinions and voices contaminate ones earlobe. That's why if wifey and I are having problems with address in house and leave that other ish for the birds. I know it's hard to let someone you shared memories with leave but you are hurting not only yourself but her as well. There are tooooooo many single women out there that don't want commitments that want to get their backs blown out and you both playing that games. This is how dudes get caught slipping and situations of unwanted pregnancies or misguided affections come into place. Look fam take a step back and ask yourself what you really want, take sometime away from her, forget putting her on a roster and enjoy life and family and friends. I played this game and in the end it caused me more heartache then her, eight years later I saw her and it still stings but my wifey beats her to infinity...
You still have alot of life ahead of you, enjoy this time and figure yourself out and let the chips fall where they may... You keep up with the tomfoolery, one of you is going to get hurt way more then the other...
CHURRCH
Edit: Just saw your edit about "cancer", my mom went through that...
Look her emotions are very fragile right now.
The thought of losing ones parent can be very stressful and scary but you have to stop thinking about smashing and either:
Give each other space( and let her be a big girl and deal with her own demons) or fight for her and show her that she means more to you then just flesh. Now the story is a little clearer for me. Sometimes if a girl is truly worth it, you have to put those gloves on and fight but also sometimes as humans we use each other as crutches to get through difficult times and forget about each other when the sun comes out again.. Look fam this could lead to some co-dependent ish that looks like love but really isn't. Now it truly is up to you to think about not only your well being but hers...
Stop with the foolishness and have a serious heart to heart with her... Either fight or let her leave and let time do the rest...
Sorry for the wall if text...

 

[boo700gs]

First off you two are too damn old to be playing this game breh..
This is what people do when they are 18-24, that break up to make up type stuff...
I always feel if you split or take a break, leave that stuff be and get your mind right, take care of business at home and maybe in the future you two can rekindle the chemistry when both have different prospectives in life..
I will never understand why men and women want to hold on to each other but at the same time don't want to deal with the emotions of actually smashing somebody you have feelings for. That stuff never ends well, plus if her parents are still in her business at this age, something truly is wrong. The only thing that should matter in relationships is what you two feel and outside influences come second. That's just how the devil creeps in when others opinions and voices contaminate ones earlobe. That's why if wifey and I are having problems with address in house and leave that other ish for the birds. I know it's hard to let someone you shared memories with leave but you are hurting not only yourself but her as well. There are tooooooo many single women out there that don't want commitments that want to get their backs blown out and you both playing that games. This is how dudes get caught slipping and situations of unwanted pregnancies or misguided affections come into place. Look fam take a step back and ask yourself what you really want, take sometime away from her, forget putting her on a roster and enjoy life and family and friends. I played this game and in the end it caused me more heartache then her, eight years later I saw her and it still stings but my wifey beats her to infinity...
You still have alot of life ahead of you, enjoy this time and figure yourself out and let the chips fall where they may... You keep up with the tomfoolery, one of you is going to get hurt way more then the other...
CHURRCH
Edit: Just saw your edit about "cancer", my mom went through that...
Look her emotions are very fragile right now.
The thought of losing ones parent can be very stressful and scary but you have to stop thinking about smashing and either:
Give each other space( and let her be a big girl and deal with her own demons) or fight for her and show her that she means more to you then just flesh. Now the story is a little clearer for me. Sometimes if a girl is truly worth it, you have to put those gloves on and fight but also sometimes as humans we use each other as crutches to get through difficult times and forget about each other when the sun comes out again.. Look fam this could lead to some co-dependent ish that looks like love but really isn't. Now it truly is up to you to think about not only your well being but hers...
Stop with the foolishness and have a serious heart to heart with her... Either fight or let her leave and let time do the rest...
Sorry for the wall if text...

Thanks mugen.  I am trying to have my cake (moving on) and eat it too (intimacy).  I really don't know what fighting for her would look like.  She dumped me so its hard to see how me trying to get her back would be sustainable or attractive to her.  After we smashed I bought her a very expensive blender (vitamix) which I use to make green smoothies and wouldve given to her to get her and her dad's health back on track.  That was when I texted her I got her something, but after another week of radio silence from her, I decided that spending money on a gift like that for her is a dumb idea that was trying to buy her affection and just decided to go with the box of chocolates.  

 

[usabasketball08]

Mugen..spitting real **** as usual.

 

[humblemelord]

 
I'm 26 shes 27.  So I've been trying to add my ex to the list of chicks I can regularly smash. Little history:  Her dad was recently diagnosed with cancer and she reached out after 2 months no contact after the break up to yell at me for not being there for her (this was before I knew the backstory).  2 weeks later I ask her for dinner and she agrees we meet up, she tells me about her dad, and I bring her back and smash.  Truth is I love her.  

But she's not compliant.  I invite her back to my new place yesterday on some i got you something tip and gave her a box of her favorite chocolates ($6).  Was thirsty as hell after no fap november and was making out and grabbing *** but she wouldn't go any further and started bringing up our old business talking bout how she don't see us ending up together.  I told her I completely agree but that she knows the chemistry is undeniable.  She says I'm trouble and she can't deny the attraction but she can't do this because she doesn't want to sneak around (her parents hate me and are on some my daughter is a V tip).  

Honestly bro, i feel like you played upon her emotions. Not saying you don't care about her dad being diagnosed with cancer but you definitely saw a opportunity and took it. Why don't her parents like you?

 

[humblemelord]

Took one of my closest homegirls out to dinner tonight..I paid.

After the check comes, I look at her waiting for her to whip some cash out and pay (it was a joke, i planned on paying the whole time.)

I eventually pull my card out.

She jokingly says, "Oh, so you think because you're paying you're getting some *** now?"

I responded with "I mean if you offer then..."

She says, "Mmmhmm we'll see."

I drop her off at her apartment, she invites me in but I respectfully decline and go home.

This caught me completely off guard. I've known her for about 5 years now, never has sex between us come up. In a serious or non-serious way. Not trying to cross that line with her, she plays her role well. Real cool chick.

Any of y'all been in the same situation?

So you don't see her in that light or are you just trying to be a gentlemen?

 

[301216baller]

Not even gonna front I've been thirsty/simpin this past week...smh gotta get back on my stuff

 

[アミーゴ]

Just got booty called

Just chillin at the spot tonight, 2 different girls asked me to go out and have drinks, decided to stay in and relax. One texted me at 1145 telling me how I'm missing out, the other called me a minute ago wanting to come over.

 

[suberzat1]

Took one of my closest homegirls out to dinner tonight..I paid.

After the check comes, I look at her waiting for her to whip some cash out and pay (it was a joke, i planned on paying the whole time.)

I eventually pull my card out.

She jokingly says, "Oh, so you think because you're paying you're getting some *** now?"

I responded with "I mean if you offer then..."

She says, "Mmmhmm we'll see."

I drop her off at her apartment, she invites me in but I respectfully decline and go home.

This caught me completely off guard. I've known her for about 5 years now, never has sex between us come up. In a serious or non-serious way. Not trying to cross that line with her, she plays her role well. Real cool chick.

Any of y'all been in the same situation?

Thru all my years every chick I thought was my friend wanted to be with me in some type of way(relationship/sex) but one. That's me tho. I pick up no new chicks as friends now.


O yea leaving off bourbon in new Orleans and this chick from back in the day runs up on me talking about how she cried after she lost my number and I didn't hit her up.(o well) NOLA was full of 6s. Pulled one chick since she was from NYC.

 

[youngdoc]

Just got booty called

Just chillin at the spot tonight, 2 different girls asked me to go out and have drinks, decided to stay in and relax. One texted me at 1145 telling me how I'm missing out, the other called me a minute ago wanting to come over.

Crazy Asian tried to get me to come out last nIght

 

[toast1985]

Last night was suppose to be low key, and just dedicates to nursing my hamstring after really hurting it playing football in the am. Got a text from one of my yambs to stop by before she went out. She stopped thru and immediately took her pants off, got to work. About 30 mins after she left, I got a call from my ex, which blew my mind. She wanted me to pick her up from the airport, I did. Fast forward to an hour later I'm smashing that out. I smashed two girls in 3 hour span last night, which is a personal first.

But I know both of those come with a heavy price tag.

 

[sunsetcity]

u are doing it. 

 

[boo700gs]

Honestly bro, i feel like you played upon her emotions. Not saying you don't care about her dad being diagnosed with cancer but you definitely saw a opportunity and took it. Why don't her parents like you?

I understand where you're coming from but her parents don't like me cause of religion. Her mom and dad refused to speak with her after I took her on vacation one time. This was after we were dating for 1.5 years

 

[mugen81]

I understand where you're coming from but her parents don't like me cause of religion. Her mom and dad refused to speak with her after I took her on vacation one time. This was after we were dating for 1.5 years

Okay I am going to break" fighting" for a girl that is worth it down.As men we get complacent in how we treat our women once we get them and after a breakup. We forget the romance, listening,touching and just general conversation. As men we feel that if we are providing, holding hands, and buying nice things, we have won the battle.WRONG...
A woman wants to know her worth, what is her value in your eyes... In your case even if the female has dogged you and treated you like ish, fighting for her now would be comforting her, even if the family is a douche bag, showing a humanistic side and being the bigger person.. Religion and race go hand-hand( trust me bro besides three chicks in my whole entire life I have dealt with mad resistance from families until they saw what I am willing to deal with and how I treated their daughters)... This is where you need to ask yourself if she is worth the drama and pain or do you need to let it go...
Any woman that goes against her family in these circumstances wants to "feel" like its worth it to her to deal with the bs also. I.E. fighting for her and showing her that you are down not because of the flesh but you are down for her all the way. What you need to do is sit down and compile a list of what lead up to the break up and the behaviors during and after to really get a crystal clear decision on this.. You are a grown *** man and should never let someone dictate what love is to your relationship, that's why we are considered "protectors",if your ex is still under the influence of her family where she is ready to throw you away simply over the ideal of race or religion then maybe it's time to take the L and move on and find your own happiness with a more open minded lady. Relationships/love/sex is not for the meek, you have to be strong in your beliefs and both parties have to understand that you are living for yourselves and not for your family. It is a plus when family, friends are accepting and get along but they are secondary in my eyes. As long as I provide a nurturing, respectful atmosphere for my girl, F*ck'em...
Once again anything worth fighting for will be arduous and enduring, so you have to ask yourself if its worth???
Stop playing with fire(sex), she feels that's what you place her worth on, and that's why she is reluctant with you.. She wants to feel like a prize and not just another YAMB
Sunday Sermon
Tabernacle

 

[daytona 5000]

It's crazy but It's like my desire to pursue yams has just evaporated. Let everyone on the team go without a second thought, and I'm about to embark on a self imposed drought and I don't even care. It's like I'm tired with having to deal with all the extra **** that comes with yams. No energy for it. Have any of y'all ever reached that point.

 

[Mark Antony]

It's crazy but It's like my desire to pursue yams has just evaporated. Let everyone on the team go without a second thought, and I'm about to embark on a self imposed drought and I don't even care. It's like I'm tired with having to deal with all the extra **** that comes with yams. No energy for it. Have any of y'all ever reached that point.

Yeah i'm there, a break every now and then is good. I think that's more my introversion than anything just needing a recharge. That's why I dug ol girl so much, it never ever felt like she encroached on my recharge time, unlike every other single female. But I can see how that affected her, probably thought I was out smashing when I was just chilling not answering phones and ****. Even ones I had crushes on that **** wears off. I have the most vile sexual thoughts though when i'm on a self imposed break. Like I ran across my neighbor and my first thought was "I wanna **** this ***** in the ***... eventually".

 

[tdogg2k]

These next 3 months works both ways, either the best time to be single or the best time to be committed.
I think people like myself Mark Antony Daytona, are in that place where we are single. and we're avoiding cuffing season (since it is already ongoing) so there isn't as much pressure to go pursue.
It's funny how my bench was full in October / Early November but after none of those worked out (before cuffing season) i just didn't care about playing the field, and I have no reason too.. Now I can go in to Christmas, New Years, and Valentines day pressure free. no need to impress anyone. no need for gifts, all that stuff im good with..

so Now when i go out, i walk with the aura positive, feeling like I can do me . (which everyone around you naturally picks up from you)

This to me helps when you do see a chick you may want, youre in such ease mode, you don't psyche yourself out. You literally go in like.. well if it works cool, if not f it.


am I wrong about that, if so, this i'm speaking for myself.

 

[youngdoc]

These next 3 months works both ways, either the best time to be single or the best time to be committed.
I think people like myself Mark Antony Daytona, are in that place where we are single. and we're avoiding cuffing season (since it is already ongoing) so there isn't as much pressure to go pursue.
It's funny how my bench was full in October / Early November but after none of those worked out (before cuffing season) i just didn't care about playing the field, and I have no reason too.. Now I can go in to Christmas, New Years, and Valentines day pressure free. no need to impress anyone. no need for gifts, all that stuff im good with..

so Now when i go out, i walk with the aura positive, feeling like I can do me . (which everyone around you naturally picks up from you)

This to me helps when you do see a chick you may want, youre in such ease mode, you don't psyche yourself out. You literally go in like.. well if it works cool, if not f it.


am I wrong about that, if so, this i'm speaking for myself.

QFT

Great to be completely single or in a serious relationship

The middle ground of early dating is not cool during the holidays

 

[ill steelo]

It's crazy but It's like my desire to pursue yams has just evaporated. Let everyone on the team go without a second thought, and I'm about to embark on a self imposed drought and I don't even care. It's like I'm tired with having to deal with all the extra **** that comes with yams. No energy for it. Have any of y'all ever reached that point.

Did this before, for over a year. I had fallen completely off & needed to regain control of my life. I literally went ghost on everyone except parents & my friends since childhood.

My productivity spiked, & it put me where I needed to be, but I completely underestimated how rusty I was when I was ready to pursue again.

It came back quickly, but I still fumbled while pursuing that first shorty . It's all good doe.