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the wifey brought this up a couple days ago and asked me if i'd ever convert to her religion if we decided to get married. i'm still stumped; it suckshow religion has to get in the way for a lot of things..
NT: would you convert to another religion to marry your fiance?
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NO!!
That basically means you're not a believer. How could you believe in something and then switch those beliefs because your spouse says so?
That basically means you're not a believer. How could you believe in something and then switch those beliefs because your spouse says so?
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No.
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i did precisely that, and i do feel badly it for a number of reasons. it was a tough choice, but there was no way her family would have accepted me if ihadn't converted.
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if religion is that big of an issue in ones life and this question arises, marriage should have never been considered
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No. Never.
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no.
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NO
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Shapeshiftah, how could it be more important to be accepted by her family and not by the higher power that you believed in? I am a Christian, I wouldn'tconvert if Lauren London was a atheist.
Is the marriage working out? I understand that woulda been a headache to determine what religion to teach your children and all.
Is the marriage working out? I understand that woulda been a headache to determine what religion to teach your children and all.
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will you still get married if you refuse to convert to her religion?
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Religion does nothing but divide.
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if I didnt have a religion, I might get down with one to marry a chick, but I couldnt see converting
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Yes for me, but its not that big a deal. I was raised Roman Catholic but I have some issues with the teachings of the Vatican that dont really jive with mypersonal opinions and beliefs. Because of my difference in beliefs I have not attended church or really practiced my faith in well over 3 years. My girl isSouthern Baptist (her pops is actually a Pastor) and she wants me to start coming to church with her. Its kind of unsaid but known that it(church/Christianity) aint really my thing but I go to keep her (and her family happy). I like to keep an open mind though and I'll give Southern Baptist ashot. See what their teachings are and see if they are consistent with my own beliefs. My only holdup is football season. Its a sticking point in ourrelationship (pathetic, that football means that much to me). As it is, I tell her I'll go to church any Sunday she wants me to with the exception of thefootball season. During the season I will go during the Chargers bye week, and the week between SB and Conference Championships.
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Shapeshiftah, how could it be more important to be accepted by her family and not by the higher power that you believed in? I am a Christian, I wouldn't convert if Lauren London was a atheist.
Is the marriage working out? I understand that woulda been a headache to determine what religion to teach your children and all.
good questions man. i think in my case, it was less awkward for my religious background -- i'm buddhist, which is a lot more flexible when itcomes to these sorts of arrangements. to respond to one of your points, i don't believe in a higher power within the confines of an organized religion, soi don't feel like i turned my back on my religious background.
the marriage is working out (although we've had to work on other non religious issues), and one of the first conversations we had even before gettingmarried had to do with how to handle the question of religion with our children. we both decided that we wouldn't mandate a religion for our kids. rather, we decided that we would let them read about and research different religions to see what makes sense for them.
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my cousin is gonna have to do this in order to get married. to be honest i dont know if id do it, i dont think i could be a muslim. praying 5 times a day ftl
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Hell no. I know a guy that did this and I lost all respect for him. Not because I don't respect the religion, but that he switched with the quickness justto hurry up and get married. If you learn about a new religion through her and really believe in it or want to believe in it, then thats cool, but switchingjust to get married is wrong to me.
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Put simply. No. That's why I think religion is bull at times.
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no marriage is a mutual agreement and by you giving into her wants you are forfeiting your behalf when instead marriage should be about compromise. neither ofyou should have to give up your religions to be with one another and instead you should both tolerate each others beliefs. after all getting married by thechurch isnt the only way to get married.
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no. and if they weren't mine or similar i prolly wouldn't marry them. Im just being honest.
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Yes.
I'm not religious anyway
I'm not religious anyway
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i wouldn't. it's not that i'm not open minded i just believe what i believe.
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so why even bother?
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with what?
with switching? or religion in general?
