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Think you gotta just lay off the pron and self play. And get good sleep. That should solve 90% of it. Overthinking it and eating all sorts of foods is a tough task and a big lifestyle change.
That said - for those that are / have been in serious relationships (7+ years) how often are you getting down in a week/month.
I’m on that washed 1x a week to 1x every 2 weeks schedule. My girl is great in most ways and great to look at but she lacks that crazy gene and doesn’t really initiate. And i don’t get the energy to be trying all that hard to initiate more than once or twice a week.
We don’t even have kids yet so a little concerned about the laziness we’re putting into this the past few years. This isn’t really a change she’s never been a more than 1x a week type of girl except for the first 6 months.
Anyone reverse this and increase the frequency with a long term partner?
i've been with my wife 31 yrs (21 married), used to have sex everyday like clockwork. now, with 3 kids and both working, we barely go once , twice a week. matter fact i'm on a streak now of a week and a half my wife's still a hot and horny Puerto Rican Bronx chic but i'm starting to turn into Al Bundy. even faked sleep a couple times cause i ain't feel like goin in for an hr of foreplay for literally 60 seconds of action, **** is pathetic nowadays
as far as sex after kids, i know plenty of friends who's wife ain't even wanna be touched after that, mine included. she just told me recently that she was always afraid of getting pregnant again because of the pain. i got no action for like 6 months doesn't seem like she ever recovered that horny demon she used to be even till this day. comes out for stretches every now and then but again, just for streaks. our kids are grown now and we're starting up again and now , of course, i'm starting to get the wet noodle. i'm only 45, could be meds i take but trust when it gets in your head it's hard as hell to get out. she's even told me why bother, i'd rather watch my show, lasts longer. i almost cried in the bathroom
as others here said , staying away form porn is probably the best thing. there was a point were i didn't even know how to initiate sex anymore. i'd be on some *** slappin, spittin on the box **** till she told me to chill that stuff can definitely ruin you. sorry for the book youngsters, this coffee and subject has me like